I am so very frustrated

[Karmageddon]

I think I just need a little clarity from the ENA group. Quickly, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half as he was treating me very poorly for the past 3 months. Doing the disappearing act then showing up again when you think he is gone for good. So finally my heart couldn't take it anymore the last time he did it, so I told him we were done & that he wasnt allowed to treat me this way anymore.

 

This was June 30th and now every couple days I have been getting text messages from him & they just break my heart. I get used to the idea that I will never hear from him, try to pull myself up by my bootstraps and get on with my life and then boom here he is. Telling me how much he loves and misses me, how important I am to him. How he misses the support and love I gave him, how he knows I was the best thing for him blah blah blah... all of which I have heard before over the the last couple months which made me want to just jump in his arms and go "yeay you finally figured it out!" and when I do...off he goes....again.

 

So why am I so frustrated right now when I knew he would do this? I expected it, but it doesn't make it any easier. I see it all over this board, this is nothing special only in so much as I have never been treated like this, so it is definitely new to me. I have stuck to my resolve, i am polite and to the point in any responses, but doing that is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I wanted to tell him a bunch of stuff, so I came here instead I have lost so much these last couple years, now him & I am feeling just incredibly weak and vulnerable and I am normally such a strong person. I know he will give up eventually & that will kill me too. This is a situation where I cannot win.

[renaissancewoman101]

Do you think he is sorry for what he did and wants to make amends?

 

Would you ever consider getting back together with him?

[Karmageddon]

I don't know what to believe anymore. He has done this twice before and I gave him the benefit of the doubt both times, then he just did it again. I think he just thinks he can do this now & its ok, that I will always be there for him b/c I love him so much. But I think he needs to live without me for a while. I'm not his beck and call girl. He needs to find the man I fell in love with, not this impostor that I have seen the last 3 months. I gotta tell ya, this "new" guy sucks! LOL!!

[Karmageddon]

Oh, and yes I would consider it, but its gonna take some work on his part.

[bambina maxima]

Ah, the boy who cried wolf.

 

My most recent ex pulled this bs. Now I will never believe another word he says.

 

People who really love you don't run away after they say it, date other people, disappear, or behave like children.

 

He's trying to keep you around without committing to you. Don't let him do it. I despise this kind of behavior.

[Karmageddon]

Ah, the boy who cried wolf.

 

HAHAAA!!! Thats awesome! That actually really made me laugh, I needed that. Thank you so much.

 

Yeah, Im sure he is just trying to string me along in case whatever new is going on in his life doesn't work out & im not letting him do that. He keeps running into a brick wall with me & I know he will give up soon if he hasn't already.

[Karmageddon]

I had to re read your post again. Its great & so very true, thank you. I know in my head its true but the reality of him actually doing that to me was a total shock. It will fade I know. Funny thing about this board is that I realized by reading everyones similar stories that he is just a common a-hole. Nothing special or unique about him or the way he treated me. I fell for a common creep!! HOOOOWWWW embarrassing!!! LOL!!!

[bambina maxima]

Here's the fable, for those who don't know it (it's an Aesop fable):