Superfreak Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 Dating and relationships are such an important part of life, and yet both are largely ignored by our education system. This leads to nobody really being sure what dating or dating customs are, and generations of people that may not have any relationship conflict resolution skills whatsoever. No wonder the divorce rate is so high. I think this should be changed. I believe that highschools should include a dating/relationship course made mandatory for the student body, and taught at about the age of 15. The course should largely be aimed at defining very generally how dating should be done. One problem on these forums I see is that nobody's sure what is and isn't permissable, and their's some dating customs that don't seem fair but are the customs largely due to outdated tradition. What a dating course would do is help to alleviate confusion and perhaps change the dating environment for the better. Basically this is an opportunity to change societal norms when it comes to dating from the bottom-up. It's purpose will be to teach not how dating was done in the past, but how dating ought to be done. Generally the course would be split in to two components, one is dating the other is relationship skills. My dating/relationship course would look something like this. Dating - Students should be taught that either gender, male or female, should be able to approach and ask out someone that they're interested. Alot of women that may be interested in approaching might not because they feel it's not there "role" to approach. A dating education teaching kids that it's perfectly ok for either gender to ask out someone would help eliminate this mode of thinking. - It should be taught that the socially accepted practice is that the first 2 dates are to be dutch. The number 2 is an arbitrary number I chose, but it's generally the number of dates it takes to go from "casually seeing eachother" to "something resembling a relationship". After 2 dates, it's the couple that decides who pays for what and when. I think this would be a good practice because it eliminates one person (probably the man) feeling that he's socially obligated to pay for a near-total stranger on the first meeting. If it's taught in school's that the socially accepted practice is for dating is to split costs until the 2nd date, it would eliminate this feeling of obligation. Dating can be expensive and for someone going on numerous first dates, costs can very quickly add up if they're paying for two, which seems ridiculous when you're not even sure if you like the other person yet. - It's taught that the socially expected custom is that each party finds there own transportation to the first date location. After the first date, how the couple arranges transportation should be up to them. - Kids learn very generally how to ask for a date. I don't mean that every person in the country should read from the same script when asking for a date, but we do get posters here that have no idea how to phrase asking for a date so perhaps this should be taught. - Students should be paired up and sent on mock-dates in the classroom. Although most kids probably already do have alot of experience talking to the opposite sex, for those that don't, pairing up two students for half an hour and telling them to talk about themselves, find out commonalities, and keep a conversation going may be a good practice run. - A lesson on staying safe with online dating...and on a date in general - Suggestions on where and how to meet people. - A social dance unit; knowing how to dance seems to open up alot of doors for meeting people and so maybe this should be taught in schools as well. Although maybe this falls more under something that should be included in a physical education course. Relationships - Relationship Conflict resolution skills should be taught - Signs to recognize when you're in an abusive relationship (physically or emotionally abusive) should be taught - Resources (help-lines, organizations) should be given to students that they can contact if they are in an abusive relationship for help - It should de-stigmitize marital counselling, teaching that it's a good idea to go even if you're not thinking of divorcing -Perhaps parenting skills should be taught as well I already see a few potential problems with this kind of course: - Gay students may feel isolated as the course will have a largely heterosexual bias. However I think that the type of things I outlined are general enough that gay students still benefit from being in such a course. - Different cultures/religions may have different dating practices: I still think that even if this is the case, kids of these different cultures and religions would still benefit should they ever choose to date outside there culture/religion. So is this a good idea at all, is it something any of you would support? Also, what would your course look like, and more specifically, what social norms when it comes to dating would you have the course change or up-hold? Link to comment
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