Really badly confused

[Joshmosh]

I guess i just need some advice. Ive never been great with girls, hell im 16 n have never had a girlfriend. Me and the girl i like kissed, but then the day after she told me she liked me as more than a friend, but she doesnt think im ready for the sort of relationship she wants. This was about 2 weeks ago, i thought i was over her, but just lately i keep finding myself thinking about her and i find myself wishing things had gone differently. I dont know what to do, i want to tell her that i still hav feelings for her but im afraid that it wont make any difference. Any suggestions would be welcome.

[kyriel]

If you really liked her, 2 weeks will not be enough to get over her. You are young yet, I wouldn't stress. Sometimes it's not a matter of being the right kind of guy so much as meeting the right kind of girl.

[RobinSC]

I'm 37. I sometimes think back to the days that I was your age, and while I would never trade my current mate for anyone, I wish I had been more upfront and just said exactly how I was feeling, when I was feeling it, with as much honesty as I could muster. There were a handful of girls from my high school years that I found out much after college had an interest in me as much as I did them, but I never had the guts to speak up and tell them. If I had, who knows, maybe my high school years would have been a lot more fun.

 

I say, speak your mind and heart, always. Then just let the pieces fall where they may. People may do all kinds of things when you do, including laugh or flat out turn you down---but overall they will respect and admire your fortitude and you may wind up with the girl in the end too. But, if you keep it to yourself, you will never have a chance with her.

[Russ]

Tell her. You've got very little to lose in the first place. I don't actually see one con in your situation, other than rejection. And you have to learn to be rejected at one time or another

[Zepp]

As RobinSC said, it's better to get this out in the open then to have never said anything at all.

 

Tell her how you feel.

The worst that could happen is that she rejects you... but then you can move on and find a new girl if that happens. God for it

[Joshmosh]

Thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in mind for whenever I next get a chance to talk to her, she seems to have vanished off the face of the earth at the moment.