Some Insight Part 2 .....uggghhhhh

[kickedin]

here is part 1

 

so she has not contacted me in any way i was hoping to see her down at the beach( i found out that she was staying at a mutual friends beach house from thurs night until sunday night....going out etc ..(a place i would least expect her to stay)...) she never contacted once since i called her last monday....(see part 1) i was only a few miles from her and really expected her to call.....now i am hurt becuase its obvious she must have had a fleeting weak moment 2 weeks ago when she texted me that "she broke up with me cause she was scared" my mind is racing with thoughts of her putting her self out there to meet other guys...and trying to move on while making me think she is just scared and needs time

 

i have decided to not answer or be very aloof because at this point i think i she thinks i m her back up plan.... i refuse to give her that security blanket although its hard not to call her again i know thats the wrong thing to do im just very confused as to why she said and did what she did....its been 3.5 years and we have chemistry and are very close but for some reason we cant get it right whether its my unstable job or just bad past memories.....i am stuck in what i feel is limbo

[leo_s84]

Hate to say it, but everybody told you what you just found out in the previous thread. I know it's hard to look at it when you're in the middle but your best bet right now is to go strict NC (no answering the phone or messages). That way you win either way.

[kickedin]

Hate to say it, but everybody told you what you just found out in the previous thread. I know it's hard to look at it when you're in the middle but your best bet right now is to go strict NC (no answering the phone or messages). That way you win either way.

 

thats my plan...i miss her(the girl i fell in love with not this goofy one) and love her dearly but i know i need to do this and if she is serious about us she will hunt me down and if she doesnt it isnt worth having

 

it has been hard not to call very hard.....but im managing even though i am very pissed about this weekend