WadeCure Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 My girlfriend and I before this year would have sex fairly regularly, maybe once every two weeks on average. We've been together nearly two years (will be two years this September). But this year, 2008, we've probably had sex no more than five times. The last time was two months ago. When we have sex, I never initiate. She always initiates. I'm scared to initiate because she very often times doesn't like to be touched and the few times that I actually have tried she would reject me. During this sexual drought she would always tell me that she found me "hot" and she says she wants to have sex with me but always "later that evening". Well everytime "later that evening" never comes. She also teases me a lot but never follows through, making sexual gestures and such. It really bothers me when she does this. Just last night she come to bed without her shirt on and started making out with me. This was after earlier that day again she would say "I wanted to have sex with you all the time and would later this evening" I started to get very turned on. I put the brakes on though at that point. She made lip motions like she wanted more kissing, and I told her "no" because "you're turning me on." But she smiled so I gave in and we made out some more. But then... she rolls over and wouldnt take it any further... leaving me extremely extremely aroused. I go to the bathroom frustratingly at that point and had to relieve myself. I know my girlfriend has body issues. She absolutely loathes her body. I love her body and think every inch of it is beautiful, and I have told her this, but she doesn't believe me. She doesn't believe that I want her. And I do want her... so very bad. I don't know how to make it clear to her when a) she doesn't believe me and b) she always rejects when i try to initiate sex. I am frustrated. This is a big problem for me... I don't know what I can do to move past it. I don't want to break up the relationship but I have needs. And I feel selfish for it. I have been looking for ways to decrease my libido. It's insane because at one time her libido was much higher than mine, and now all of a sudden hers is nil and mine has skyrocketed. I don't know if there are any drugs that could possibly decrease a persons sex drive. Maybe some anti-depressant or something... but I'm seriously trying to look into it. Because it's killing me that I desire this girl so much, she always teases me, and I always get my hopes up for intimacy, to always get let down. I have never asked her what the problem is or anything. I never pressure her for sex. I just wish she desired me like she used to. I feel very depressed and inadequate. Link to comment
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