How do you get over a crush... when he's your teacher?

[Princess_JJ]

Hi, I'm new to this site, but it looks like the people here have given some great feedback on personal issues, so I thought I'd try it out.

 

My instructor and I started flirting about 3 months ago. We're both adults, so at first I thought it would be ok, even if it didn't develop into a relationship. At first, it was more like "hero-worship".... I was star-struck and flattered that he would take an interest in me because he is one of the best in the world at what he does. But the more time I spent with him, the more I liked him as a person..... and unfortunately, before I knew it, I was falling head over heels for this guy. So he recently told me we should go back to being "student/teacher" due to the fact that he is trying to work things out with his ex (which came as a shock to me because I didn't even know he was just out of a serious relationship)... and I'm stuck seeing him 4 times a week in class.

 

Does anybody have some idea as to how to get over somebody who you see on a regular basis? I can't change classes.... he is the only instructor for this particular class in my area.

 

Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated!

[SweetypieEnlightenedOne]

Wow I am so proud of you. I didn't know women like you still existed! I am very impressed with you. Instead of what most trifling sneaky no good home wrecking women do, you have more respect for yourself and others and you decided to back off. You have no idea how much this will do for you in the future.

 

So with that being said.....You have to see him in all the time, so its not going to be easy, oh but it is possible. The best thing for you to do is concentrate on your school work, and start looking at other options. This is the only way to get over this thing your going through. Go out and have fun with other men. Keep things on a very distant "Good morning" "hi" and "goodbye" level! After a few weeks you should be feeling better. But definitely keep your distance..i don't care how cute or perfect you think he is...let him be with the other woman, real women don't have time to play seconds. Sorry sister you have more important things to do.

[Princess_JJ]

I guess I never really looked at it that way And you're right, I do have more respect for myself and their relationship then to try and continue the flirtation.... And I do have better things to do then to play seconds to somebody else.

 

Thanks for your advice. I'm definitely going to put it into effect and hopefully, this awful yearning will eventually go away.

 

Sincerely,

Princess JJ

[neva_black_n_white]

great advice from the above, and yes i agree, a woman who has respect to stand back, and correct in saying, why be second best?

your saying that theres only one class that is taught and its by him, well if so im guessing its not on a one to one basis but as a group. is that right? if so then id just mingle in with others, if not and its a one to one, keep to small talk and enjoy your life! dont worry there are many other men, and for what characteristics you hold shown within what you wrote, im guessing there will be plenty after you.

 

just enjoy your time with him as a mate, and if you find it hard, well i guess tihngs dont come easy. get out there and find someone new, if your looking for that

 

kel

p.s. welcome to the site

[Princess_JJ]

Wow, this forum does great things for people! Who started it? They should get some sort of award. You guys are awesome. Let me know if you need anything.

 

Yes, it is a group class... and I enjoy the topic and my fellow classmates a lot. No, I'm not looking for a relationship right now (this one, with my teacher, just happened unexpectedly). I try not to look for happiness in the attention I get from guys.... although it can be very flattering. I guess I'm a firm believer in finding peace and happiness with myself because it is something I can control... which is why I'm frustrated (with myself) that I've gotten myself emotionally involved with the teach Grrr.... I can hardly wait to get over this.

 

Have a great and safe new years! See you around the site.

Princess JJ

[BrandonBo]

yes there is some good advice u should keep ur distance from him and talk with other ppl and maybe try to meet someone new