When love turns into hate...

[CrazyKing]

There is a girl I know for already 4 years...

Really fell in love with her a year and a half ago...

I got such a boost from the feelings I had towards her...

 

But then I realized that this particular person is never going to experience even a little of the feelings towards me as I've experienced towards her... All I wanted at that point was that she could at least understand what I'm going through when I see her or think about her...

Lately I called her and was just asking her how she's doing, and what happened after that was a new experience for me: I started to feel a little like hating her...

 

When I was in love with her I actively ignored every bad habbit she had, I just focused on the things she's very good at - painting, communication with other people, her beliefs, encouraged her to do more...

 

But now I only heard a bored person talking to me on the phone, that's definitely not the person I've known for the past 4 years, she has even practically given up the hobbies she had, hangs around with people who only like to party all the time...

 

I don't know - either she has changed in my eyes because I'm not a party animal anymore and I'm focused more on my future, or is it her who has just chosen to remain at the same spot for the rest of her life???

[Raiden]

Forget about her, and consider yourself smarter and stronger for the experience.

 

Little can be gained by stirring up feelings of hatred within by contacting her anymore or analyzing what went wrong and where; she's obviously changed and moved on, so should you.

[kyriel]

I have a similar relationship with my ex. He is very attractive and in certain aspects, really has his life together. But he has a huge number of flaws, and lately I've been seeing them more and more. He is a good friend of my roommates so I can't avoid him and he and I used to be great friends, but lately I find myself actively avoiding his calls and making excuses to not hang out with him. A close friend was the first to note what I felt for him as "hate," and while I refuse to claim the emotion is that extreme, its pretty darn close.