Lindsey6826 Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 4 yrs ago, I started a new job and made friends with this guy Joe that I was hired with. I thought he was really cool and nice. I only thought of him as a friend even though I knew he liked me as more than a friend, from our coworkers telling me. About a year into our friendship, I started to think of him as more than a friend also. I told him how I felt and we started talking on the phone all the time and hanging out. 2 weeks later, we had slept together. After a while, I really started having feelings for him. He always made it clear that he didn't want anything serious, but when he did, he would consider something with me. I kept thinking that I would stick around, we would eventually be together, which I know is stupid. He never really took me anywhere-we would just hang out at his place or mine. And when he went out with his friends, he wouldn't include me. He also would never let me see his cell phone, but always look thru mine. We also argued alot, mainly because I didn't like how things were going. I didn't want a FWB type of relationship and he knew that. He led me on and always put off talk of a relationship. I never even met his family. Well, just this past January, he bought a house and didnt tell me. When I found out, he told me he was still living at home and renting the house out. That was a lie, he really lived there the whole time. Then I found out he was living with his ex gf, they had gotten back together and never told me. Thats obviously why he never wanted me to know about the house, because I would want to come over. Then just over Memorial Day weekend he ended up getting one of his friends thats a girl pregnant (not his gf). He told me in person after he slept w me. I was so angry he slept w me and then told me hes having a baby with someone.He said he was happy and he's going to stay with her and try to make it work andthat he's glad im not pregnant and other things meant to hurt my feelings. He also lies about little things, like going on vacation when I saw him around here. I know he has many bad qualities-lying, selfish, self centered, and he cheats. He aslo told me the past 3 yrs were just sex to him. Could that be true? I dont understand how you could be friends with someone for a yr and intimate for 3 years and not have any feelings for them at all. And how can he be so happy with this pregnant girl and so supportive? I doubt he would be if it were me. I also have had an eating disorder and because of everything thats happened, it is worse than ever. I don't know what to do anymore. Why am I so hung up on this guy? I just want to feel better and get over him and stop purging and starving. I guess its a way for me to cope with everything and it doesn't help that we work together. I know he tells everyone that Im crazy and obsessed with him. I still call him and I don't know why, esp when he says he wants me to leave him alone. Its also difficult to have tto work at the same place even though our schedules are different. I guess I just need advice. Thankyou. Link to comment
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