life falling apart

[notahappycamper]

5 years ago my husband, supposedly to buy orchids for our business met up with a Thai woman and started business over there from which I gain no profit - I tried to hold on to the business we had here (big mistake) and have ended up in debt with almost 600k mortgage on my home, which is in disrepair Have been working hard to pay debt but now have had surgery for uterine cancer (waiting for test results -praying do not need chemo) my dad is in skilled nursing facility, my younger daughter has low-paying job and my older daughter left the state and maybe soon, the country. Have very little help and am fearful healthwise and financially - the judge in the divorce case does not seem to see the problem - even suggested my husband entitled to half my retirement -cannot see how I can be saddled with debt, uncertain as to my working potential, and my husband still wants cash. I pray every day, but I do not really know what to do.. Help?

ladyone PS since he left he has fathered 2 different children with 2 different women

[Loki71]

Not sure why he is not getting half the debit? He started a busniess while married so you should be getting half of that. Sounds like you need a better lawyer.

[Supa_gurl]

Definatley look into another attorney. You should still be able to get a good one. Not all lawyers are scum. If you just tell him/her your situation they may be able to help so that the ex gets half the debt as well. I would try very hard to keep the retirement. He is in no way entitled to that. good luck. I will be praying for health, happiness, finances, and sanity.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Yeah, I agree with the others. I hope you get the all clear regarding the outcome of the surgery. I might also suggest tapping into the support networks within the cancer care facility. Sometimes there are volunteer based support groups that will help you deal with the cancer issues...and they might be able to point you in a direction regarding your divorce issues. Maybe they know a lawyer who could help you. Cancer patients tend to rally together so maybe your plight along with the cancer scare might win you some support and help in fighting your ex to get what you want. It is worth exploring.