DjSystemz Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Sometimes I miss my gf so much that i feel very sick. Like i have a high fever. I don't know what to do. For example yesterday I didn't talk to her all day until around 11:30 at night. She was busy all day with her friends and I worked until 5pm. We were on instant messenger and she just seemed very general. No I love you, no i miss you So stupid me brings up a question that I should have never asked and i said "Are you loosing interest in me?" She told me that she couldn't believe that you said that. She also said that i hated her and she is mean to me because of the way she treats me i guess. And i told her no thats not it and i apologized for asking such a stupid question. Then we had a nice conversation on the phone for 2 hours until we went to bed last night. But I don't know what to think. I think she is really loosing interest in me even though she says she is not. We haven't hung out in three days due to her being busy. And it just doesnt feel the same as it use to when we first got together three months ago. I really hope this is some sort of phase because if not then I can feel a break up occurring really soon. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 How long have you two been together, and how old are you? Link to comment
ccali78 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 I would just give her a bit of space. You cannot smother her with your love. Let her know you love her and our there of course, but let her reach out to you if she feels distant. Let her work her feelings out and things should be ok. Link to comment
DjSystemz Posted July 5, 2008 Author Share Posted July 5, 2008 I'm 19 and she is 17. And it has been three months. Link to comment
karvala Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Three months is the classic time period for the end of the honeymoon phase. It doesn't mean a breakup will occur (although that's always possible), but it does mean that the intensity of the early romance may start to fade at this point, and the relationship settle into a less energetic pattern that's more manageable in the long term. It's always sad when the other person starts to feel it before you do, but you'll get used to. Just don't cling too hard, or try to reverse time in this respect, but instead embrace the new way of doing things. If you cling, then you may well drive her away and you don't want to do that. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 i very much agree with the other posters. chill out a little. now is a good time to pick up a new hobby, or get involved in a sport. don't smother her. sign up for something to fill your time, and maybe she'll be the one missing you when you are off at karate practice or beach volleyball or whatever. Link to comment
DjSystemz Posted July 6, 2008 Author Share Posted July 6, 2008 thats what i want, for her to miss me. i feel like she isn't even missing me, though she says she is. so a quick update. yesterday we were suppose to hang out most of the day but the night before she explained to me how her dad and her made plans to spend the day together. i wasn't mad or upset, i was kind of happy that she is getting to spend time with her father because he is always on business trips and is always busy. around 10pm i started freaking out because i didn't know where she was and the thought of her ditching me for someone else that day came into my mind. she finally got home around 11:30pm and we were online and of course she was being general with me again. no i love you, no anything. so i called her to see what was the matter and if something was on her mind and she told me everything was fine. then i started to break down and cry over the stupid phone and i spilled my guts out to her about how much i loved her and how much i missed her all day. she started crying as well and she apologized about how she was a bad gf for not keeping in touch with me these past days. i just dont know what to think anymore. i think my head is going to explode Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 Have you talked to her today? Link to comment
DjSystemz Posted July 6, 2008 Author Share Posted July 6, 2008 no. she told me she was going to call me this morning. but its 12:18pm and still no phone call. we usually call each other in the morning, but i am waiting for her to call me because i know sometimes she sleeps in, the latest sometimes 1:30pm, and she was up late last night so i wouldn't doubt if she is still sleeping. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 well, how did you end the conversation...was it on a good note? Link to comment
DjSystemz Posted July 6, 2008 Author Share Posted July 6, 2008 yeah it was on a kind of positive note. she had to get off her cell phone because she didnt have any minutes left so we talked on instant messenger. and i spilled my guts out even more Link to comment
DjSystemz Posted July 6, 2008 Author Share Posted July 6, 2008 DynoMITE5 (12:35:17 AM): hey DynoMITE5 (12:35:32 AM): im sorry i cant talk to you on the phone DjTechnicz (12:35:32 AM): hey DjTechnicz (12:35:37 AM): its ok DjTechnicz (12:35:39 AM): really it isss DjTechnicz (12:36:02 AM): im sorry for being such a wreckk DjTechnicz (12:36:05 AM): DynoMITE5 (12:36:27 AM): noooo stop saying sorrry ! DynoMITE5 (12:36:33 AM): you didnt do anything DynoMITE5 (12:36:35 AM): i did DynoMITE5 (12:36:37 AM): and im sorry DynoMITE5 (12:36:41 AM): i made you sad DynoMITE5 (12:36:42 AM): and DynoMITE5 (12:36:50 AM): i didnt call you all dayy DynoMITE5 (12:36:51 AM): and DynoMITE5 (12:36:57 AM): im soooo sorry DynoMITE5 (12:37:02 AM): im a bad gf DjTechnicz (12:37:10 AM): no * * * ! DjTechnicz (12:37:20 AM): i understand you didnt call becuz you were with your dad DjTechnicz (12:37:27 AM): and i just freaked out online tonight thats all DjTechnicz (12:37:32 AM): ur not a bad gf ! 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DjTechnicz (12:41:48 AM): i wish you could DjTechnicz (12:41:57 AM): but im not going to get mad over something stupidddd DjTechnicz (12:42:04 AM): im sad yess i cant see you DjTechnicz (12:42:09 AM): but i hope to seee you soon DynoMITE5 (12:42:33 AM): like tomorrow DynoMITE5 (12:42:34 AM): DjTechnicz (12:42:40 AM): yeah tomorrow ! DjTechnicz (12:42:56 AM): but im not sure if my work wants me to work tomorrow at 3 DjTechnicz (12:43:00 AM): becuz im on call DynoMITE5 (12:43:08 AM): oh okay DjTechnicz (12:43:18 AM): but i think im going to call them tomorrow morning DynoMITE5 (12:43:25 AM): okay DjTechnicz (12:43:26 AM): and tell them i cant come in DjTechnicz (12:43:30 AM): okays? DjTechnicz (12:43:35 AM): becuz i want to be with you DynoMITE5 (12:43:44 AM): okayy DjTechnicz (12:43:44 AM): and i want to be with you more oftennn DynoMITE5 (12:43:50 AM): yeah same here DjTechnicz (12:44:04 AM): and like im going crazy not seeing you even for two stupid days DjTechnicz (12:44:18 AM): DjTechnicz (12:44:46 AM): i seriously doubt i could ever love someone as much as i love you kayla DjTechnicz (12:44:54 AM): i wrote something for you today DjTechnicz (12:45:09 AM): but i pretty much said all of it on the phonee DynoMITE5 (12:45:49 AM): okay DynoMITE5 (12:45:51 AM): wait DynoMITE5 (12:46:03 AM): what were you going to give me that was long ? DjTechnicz (12:46:23 AM): i got you a purple rose DjTechnicz (12:46:26 AM): DynoMITE5 (12:46:44 AM): awwww thats cute i thought it was worms DynoMITE5 (12:46:46 AM): DjTechnicz (12:46:52 AM): lol noooo DynoMITE5 (12:46:55 AM): hahaha DynoMITE5 (12:46:57 AM): DjTechnicz (12:46:58 AM): its dying tho DjTechnicz (12:47:01 AM): DynoMITE5 (12:47:09 AM): ohhhh thats sad im sorrrry DjTechnicz (12:47:14 AM): its okkk DjTechnicz (12:47:21 AM): i was going t giv it to you tonight DjTechnicz (12:47:29 AM): but its okayyy, i can get you another one hopefullly DjTechnicz (12:47:51 AM): and i hope im not freaking you out about me loving you so much DynoMITE5 (12:47:54 AM): awww im sorrrrry DynoMITE5 (12:48:06 AM): no way your not ! DynoMITE5 (12:48:12 AM): i love you a super lot tooo DjTechnicz (12:48:18 AM): okays DjTechnicz (12:48:28 AM): DjTechnicz (12:49:14 AM): uggg i feeel stupid for cryingggg DjTechnicz (12:49:28 AM): guys shouldnt cryyyyy DynoMITE5 (12:49:43 AM): no dont feel stupid DynoMITE5 (12:49:46 AM): its okay DynoMITE5 (12:49:56 AM): you actually made me start toooo DynoMITE5 (12:49:59 AM): im sooooorry DynoMITE5 (12:50:00 AM): grrrr DynoMITE5 (12:50:05 AM): im gay DynoMITE5 (12:50:09 AM): i didnt mean to be mean DynoMITE5 (12:50:12 AM): i promise DjTechnicz (12:50:31 AM): nooo i didnt want you to cryyyy DjTechnicz (12:50:41 AM): i know, it just happened DjTechnicz (12:50:44 AM): it wasnt intentional DjTechnicz (12:50:49 AM): just miscommunication DynoMITE5 (12:51:19 AM): okayy DjTechnicz (12:51:27 AM): just like i never want you to tell me ever tht i dont feel the way you do about me DjTechnicz (12:51:37 AM): i feel exactly the same about you if not more ! DjTechnicz (12:51:47 AM): sometimes i think about you so much i cryyy DjTechnicz (12:51:57 AM): becuz im a d0rk DjTechnicz (12:52:08 AM): DynoMITE5 (12:52:37 AM): you not a dork and im sooo sotty for saying that DynoMITE5 (12:52:39 AM): i really am DjTechnicz (12:52:53 AM): its okays DjTechnicz (12:52:57 AM): i dont think you meant it DjTechnicz (12:53:02 AM): it was the night you were angry DjTechnicz (12:53:14 AM): but still, a lot of it was truee DjTechnicz (12:53:28 AM): it felt like it was stuff you were meaning to say to me but never wanted too DjTechnicz (12:53:42 AM): i deleted the message becuz i didnt want to read it again DynoMITE5 (12:53:43 AM): im ssssssoooo sorry DjTechnicz (12:53:48 AM): its ok babe DjTechnicz (12:53:54 AM): i rather know DynoMITE5 (12:53:55 AM): no its not DynoMITE5 (12:53:59 AM): im sorry DynoMITE5 (12:54:03 AM): really i am DjTechnicz (12:54:03 AM): no babe DynoMITE5 (12:54:04 AM): grrr DynoMITE5 (12:54:05 AM): im gay DjTechnicz (12:54:08 AM): none of this is your fault DjTechnicz (12:54:13 AM): i proimse DynoMITE5 (12:54:25 AM): okay DynoMITE5 (12:54:30 AM): DjTechnicz (12:54:31 AM): you were just mad in the message thats all its ok DjTechnicz (12:54:39 AM): i would have blown up too DjTechnicz (12:54:43 AM): but i love you kayla DjTechnicz (12:54:47 AM): a lottt DjTechnicz (12:55:02 AM): and everytime i say it to you DjTechnicz (12:55:06 AM): it comes from deep inside me DynoMITE5 (12:55:17 AM): same here DjTechnicz (12:55:17 AM): and it takes everything i have to say it DynoMITE5 (12:55:21 AM): i mean it alot ! DynoMITE5 (12:55:23 AM): i doo! DjTechnicz (12:55:25 AM): becuz i mean it soo soo much DjTechnicz (12:55:28 AM): i know babe DynoMITE5 (12:55:32 AM): okay DynoMITE5 (12:55:37 AM): well im like beat DynoMITE5 (12:55:41 AM): can i go to bed DynoMITE5 (12:55:47 AM): or you want me to stay up ? DynoMITE5 (12:56:00 AM): cause i will DjTechnicz (12:56:02 AM): forlike 10 moreminutes? DynoMITE5 (12:56:11 AM): okay DjTechnicz (12:56:12 AM): im just really happy im talking to you DjTechnicz (12:56:17 AM): and im sorry your tireddd DjTechnicz (12:56:21 AM): ill let you go to bed soon DynoMITE5 (12:56:22 AM): yeah i am happy too DynoMITE5 (12:56:28 AM): okay DjTechnicz (12:56:39 AM): and like one more thing DjTechnicz (12:56:49 AM): the thought of loosing you crossed my mind today DjTechnicz (12:56:58 AM): and i swear it was the worst feeling in the worlddd DjTechnicz (12:57:02 AM): i dunno why i thought of it DynoMITE5 (12:57:02 AM): what ! DynoMITE5 (12:57:08 AM): you want too ? DynoMITE5 (12:57:20 AM): what am i doing wronggg DjTechnicz (12:57:24 AM): no no no no !!!!!!! DynoMITE5 (12:57:26 AM): omg im sorrrry DjTechnicz (12:57:34 AM): no babe like i worried DjTechnicz (12:57:43 AM): and i thought about it for some stupid idiotic reason DjTechnicz (12:57:47 AM): and i freaked out DjTechnicz (12:57:50 AM): thats why i freaked out DjTechnicz (12:57:54 AM): your not doing anything wrong DjTechnicz (12:57:59 AM): im just an idiot for freaking out DynoMITE5 (12:58:00 AM): ohhh well can i tell you something DjTechnicz (12:58:03 AM): yes? DynoMITE5 (12:58:14 AM): okay stop thinking you are going to lose me DynoMITE5 (12:58:17 AM): please DynoMITE5 (12:58:26 AM): it makes me sad when you say that DjTechnicz (12:58:35 AM): i know and im sorry DjTechnicz (12:58:43 AM): i will never bring it up or think about it again DjTechnicz (12:58:51 AM): i hope you know that you will NEVER lose me DynoMITE5 (12:58:54 AM): okay DynoMITE5 (12:58:57 AM): i dooo DjTechnicz (12:58:58 AM): i swear to god you will never lose me DjTechnicz (12:59:03 AM): i love youuu soo soo * * * * ing much DynoMITE5 (12:59:17 AM): i love you toooooo bunchesssssssss DjTechnicz (12:59:17 AM): that nothing in the world that you do would even phase me DynoMITE5 (12:59:22 AM): and bunchesssss DjTechnicz (12:59:36 AM): my love for you is so so strong that it just overpowers anything DjTechnicz (12:59:43 AM): DjTechnicz (12:59:55 AM): i will never bring that up ever again i promise DynoMITE5 (1:00:00 AM): okay DjTechnicz (1:00:07 AM): becuz i know it makes you sad DjTechnicz (1:00:13 AM): and thats not what i want to do at all ! DjTechnicz (1:00:24 AM): ohh hey you should comment my new pics lol DjTechnicz (1:00:31 AM): DynoMITE5 (1:01:05 AM): lol can i tomorrow im not on DynoMITE5 (1:01:07 AM): but i willl DjTechnicz (1:01:13 AM): okays that good DjTechnicz (1:01:18 AM): but i feel so much better DjTechnicz (1:01:29 AM): like i feel like i can tell you anything DynoMITE5 (1:01:30 AM): yeah me too DynoMITE5 (1:01:35 AM): weeee thats goood DjTechnicz (1:01:36 AM): and that feeling feels so good DynoMITE5 (1:01:41 AM): i can tell you anything DjTechnicz (1:01:45 AM): yay ! DjTechnicz (1:02:02 AM): i can trust you with anything i tell you and i know you will be understanding DjTechnicz (1:02:08 AM): and i love having you there for me so much DjTechnicz (1:02:16 AM): and i hope you know im here for you about anything DynoMITE5 (1:02:25 AM): i know you are ! DjTechnicz (1:02:33 AM): and i will help you anyway possible ! DynoMITE5 (1:02:40 AM): i knowww DynoMITE5 (1:02:43 AM): DjTechnicz (1:03:02 AM): i love you sooooooo much kayla ! i cant even explain what i fel for you anymore, its indescribable. DjTechnicz (1:03:08 AM): feel* DynoMITE5 (1:03:23 AM): i love you sooooo soooo soooo soooo much toooo DynoMITE5 (1:03:27 AM): like insanely DjTechnicz (1:03:40 AM): yay ! DynoMITE5 (1:03:49 AM): DjTechnicz (1:03:53 AM): anddddd im happy i got to talk to you on the hne DjTechnicz (1:03:56 AM): i feel much better DynoMITE5 (1:04:05 AM): weeee DynoMITE5 (1:04:12 AM): i will call you in the morning ? DjTechnicz (1:04:23 AM): oh and sorry for calling you last night at 3 am, i just wantd to let you know that i loved you DjTechnicz (1:04:32 AM): yes babi call me in the monrning DynoMITE5 (1:04:42 AM): its okayyy it made me smile DjTechnicz (1:04:53 AM): okays babe, yeah i was thinking about you DjTechnicz (1:04:59 AM): like i woke up DjTechnicz (1:05:04 AM): and you came into my head DjTechnicz (1:05:07 AM): so i called you quickk DynoMITE5 (1:05:13 AM): lol DynoMITE5 (1:05:14 AM): DjTechnicz (1:05:15 AM): lol DynoMITE5 (1:05:17 AM): weeee DjTechnicz (1:05:17 AM): DynoMITE5 (1:05:21 AM): okay bed time ? DjTechnicz (1:05:30 AM): yes babe bedtime DjTechnicz (1:05:36 AM): for me too cuz im tiredd DynoMITE5 (1:05:41 AM): okayyyss DynoMITE5 (1:05:51 AM): i love you a bunch ! DynoMITE5 (1:06:01 AM): gooooodnight ! DynoMITE5 (1:06:03 AM): DjTechnicz (1:06:08 AM): i love you bunches too ! DjTechnicz (1:06:12 AM): goodnight ! DjTechnicz (1:06:18 AM): i have my cell if you need anything DjTechnicz (1:06:20 AM): okays? DynoMITE5 (1:06:22 AM): okayy DjTechnicz (1:06:37 AM): okays goodnight cherripie DynoMITE5 (1:06:44 AM): goodnight DynoMITE5 (1:06:44 AM): Link to comment
aquabluesands Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 yall sound very cute and happy together...do you really want to end that just bc she couldn't hang out for three days?? Also, this is gonna sound very weird but before you can care and love someone alot you have to take care of yourself too. you know how when your in an airplane and they tell you in case of an emergency strap your own oxygen mask on before you try to help other people. think about it if you try to help them first you might not be able to do it and then you wont have any air either. then you will both be in huge trouble... so yes this sounds selfish but make sure you take care of yourself just as much as you take care of her. and becareful don't assume she will give you just as much love as you give her, you have to give love without expecting anything back......but be happy when she gives it back bc she gives it of her own free will bc she wants to not bc she has to. Link to comment
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