dont_know_what_2_say Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 thank you in advance for reading. I broke up with my boyfriend of three years about a month ago. We were in a long distance relationship for those three years (met online). First boyfriend. We broke up on very good terms. No hard feelings. I understood you can't change people, and I didn't accept some of his behaviors. His reasons being, He needed to figure himself out, what he was going to do with his life ( he's 26), and that was really stressing him out, plus long distance relationship issues just was too much for him I guess. anyways, we continued talking on and off during this month. I thought I was o.k. with the communication at first, trying to see him as a friend etc. Then this week we didn't talk for about three days, until today which is when i decided we should stop talking altogether. This is because after those three days of not talking it was starting to hit me we were not together anymore, and i was starting to feel really depressed and sad about it, missing him, thinking he had gotten over me already etc. Once i talked to him today it's like every feeling of sadness had vanished and I was back into being happy and normal as if nothing had happened, which made me realize I needed to go no contact so I could REALLY start dealing with the pain of breaking up and get out of "denial" part of grievance. So now I deleted and blocked him from my account, so I can't talk to him. I guess what I'm asking is, was it the right decision? will going no-contact help me heal? or just to hear from people who have gone through this, and they can tell me how it was for them healing after a break up as i mentioned this is my first relationship, and I really don't know what to do when it comes to healing after a break up. I tried the being friends, but it was too soon... how do you know when it's o.k to be friends with an ex? when you can picture them with someone and be happy for them?? Link to comment
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