angiebragg2002 Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 If your girlfriend "pops up" at your job or home unannounced, would this upset you? Why does it upset you? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 That is very inappropriate. The person could be very busy at work, in a meeting with the boss, dealing with any number of work issues. There should be no surprise visits from girlfriends. Link to comment
Samedy Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I don't think it would upset me if it happened every-so-often.... But if it happened all the time, it would get annoying... Link to comment
crosstownTraffic Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 well maybe at work, but to pop up uannounced at your home? Why is that so off-limits? What are you hiding anyway? Link to comment
hers Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I show up to my boyfriend's work sometimes just to surprise him. I'll take him a milkshake or sushi or something. Last week, I took him sushi one night (one roll for each of us) b/c his restuarnt isn't usually very busy on that night, but it turns out he was super busy and couldn't visit with me. No big deal. I left his sushi and went home. I don't think it's a big deal if it's done every once and a while, like a nice surprise. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I don't like the "pop in" myself..... Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Yes my ex hated it when i called him at work! Link to comment
melrich Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 There should be no surprise visits from girlfriends. Really? You have to make an appointment? Wouldn't bother me if it was just very occasional at work....she was in the area or something. Obviously if you are busy/can't say hi they would have to understand that. In terms of at home, I don't know...for me it is sometimes nice to be surprised. If it happened all the time I might have to say something. Link to comment
hers Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Yes my ex hated it when i called him at work! Calling is a different story...I hate when anyone calls me at work. (but then again, I work alone every day now so I do a lot of calling/texting myself, but when I USED to work at real jobs, I hated when anyone called me at work) Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 It depends on the circumstances if you're doing it just to check up on them.. Yes, it's inappropriate and if it's done too often can become a problem however I think sometimes it's sweet. Also guess it would depend on what type of work they did too. Link to comment
dont_know_what_2_say Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I think visits at work are inappropriate, unless he is the owner of the place where he works, or the boss, co-workers don't mind. At home i don't think its such a big deal, but at work yeah no... could get the person in trouble.. Link to comment
DN Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 A lot depends on what an employer would think about visits from girlfriends - it could be a problem. As to unexpected visits at his home - again, it depends on what prompted the visit. It could easily look like you are checking up to make sure he isn't with someone else. Link to comment
ccali78 Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I would say no to work as I know I am busy. However at home stop over whenever unless you know I have plans. Even then if it had plans if you stopped by I do not think I would mind as long as you were not invading my plans with the girls Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I think it's a sweet idea. don't get why anyone would look upon a surprise visit negatively. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Calling is a different story...I hate when anyone calls me at work. (but then again, I work alone every day now so I do a lot of calling/texting myself, but when I USED to work at real jobs, I hated when anyone called me at work) I guess I don't understand why calling would be worse than popping in. When you call them at work they can either chat with you or call you back when they are less busy..but popping in unannounced can be very awkward if you are right smack in the middle of something and then you feel rude asking them to leave. Link to comment
hers Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I think it's a sweet idea. don't get why anyone would look upon a surprise visit negatively. If it's done too much, if the person working asks the person to stop, if the employer is bothered by it, etc. But yeah I like surprise visits. It's sweet and it's always great to see that "HEY!" look on their face! Link to comment
hers Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I guess I don't understand why calling would be worse than popping in. When you call them at work they can either chat with you or call you back when they are less busy..but popping in unannounced can be very awkward if you are right smack in the middle of something and then you feel rude asking them to leave. Well calling it woudl be like "Whatcha doin?" Showing up is to say hello to them, possibly give them something, offer to take them to lunch, something like that. A short but sweet visit. When I waitressed, my boyfriend woudl show up sometimes just to sit in my section if he knew it woudl be a slow night for me. It made my night better sometimes. Office, though--not sure. Offices usually frown on stuff like that. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I think it's a sweet idea. don't get why anyone would look upon a surprise visit negatively. Because work is work...it is not a place to entertain your girlfriend. It is unprofessional. I don't see wives paying surprise visits to their husbands at work..they call. Romance should be left at home, not in the boardroom. Link to comment
leo_s84 Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 ok sorry, Don't poop where you eat, does that work? heh Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Well calling it woudl be like "Whatcha doin?" Showing up is to say hello to them, possibly give them something, offer to take them to lunch, something like that. A short but sweet visit. When I waitressed, my boyfriend woudl show up sometimes just to sit in my section if he knew it woudl be a slow night for me. It made my night better sometimes. Office, though--not sure. Offices usually frown on stuff like that. Okay, waitressing is a different matter...the work environment lends itself to a visit because the person can always order something. I was thinking about an office environment where it would be awkward. Link to comment
melrich Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Don't poop where you eat, does that work? heh LOL....it's better but isn't that "phrase" about not having romantic relationships with work colleagues?. Link to comment
leo_s84 Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 LOL....it's better but isn't that "phrase" about not having romantic relationships with work colleagues?. hehe yeah, but i thought it like don't mix relationships and work Link to comment
melrich Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Ah fair enough.....but I thought sex on the bosses desk was one of the great American fantasies? ....It's in enough movies anyway. LOL Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Ah fair enough.....but I thought sex on the bosses desk was one of the great American fantasies? ....It's in enough movies anyway. LOL Reminds me that Seinfeld episode with George having sex with his secretary on his desk...LMAO!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 Ah fair enough.....but I thought sex on the bosses desk was one of the great American fantasies? ....It's in enough movies anyway. LOL Just watch that stapler! Link to comment
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