serendipity211 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 hey guys, i wanted to know your opinion and past experiences. I dated this guy for a year, we went from breaking up, to becoming "friends", to labeling ourselves "complicated, then In an Open Relationship, then back to friends. It's been a hectic time and we've gone through a lot the past year. The thing is, is that he's hurt me a lot. He's confessed many things to me that is a big deal to me, and made a big impact on our relationship. Part of it was that I found out he was flirting with other girls behind my back on Facebook, chatting to random girls he didn't know, and messaging his ex. (I found this out through accidently looking onto his FB when he left it open one time). Oh and btw, I already didn't trust him before b/c of other stuff he had been keeping from me. I guess thats what prompted me to look in his FB behind his back. But, this was the first time he'd kept something from me that had to do with girls & cheating on me. As a result, I considered this cheating. Not major cheating, but still cheating nonetheless. I talked to him about it, and based on the type of person he is and his past, I genuinely believed him when he said he was very sorry about it, and kept crying, etc. He said he didn't even know why he did it, which i partly don't believe (b/c how can you not know why you messaged all those girls, initiativly?) It's been awhile now. and he still cares about me a lot, and I still care about him a lot. We've given it some time, even though we've technically still have been seeing each other sometimes. What I want to know is, Is it possible to get back with an ex after he's cheated on you? Doesn't matter the level of cheating, it'd just be nice to know that its possible to have a happily ever after with a guy, to be able to give him a second chance and know that he's learned from his past mistake. Is it really true with the quote, "once a cheater, always a cheater"? I know its not going to be easy to work it out, but right now i don't know if i should give my ex another chance, considering I really don't trust him anymore after all that hes done to me, but I am willing to. Please let me know your thoughts, thanks. Link to comment
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