rachie Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Hi. My boyfriend and I of one year broke up a few days ago. It was him that initiated the break up. It wasn't really a bad break-up, but I just don't understand. Last week we were fine, and then he said he wanted to end things. I know he loves me and there is nobody else. We've had break ups before but have always gotten back together no longer than a few days after. We haven't had any contact apart from he sent me a message by accident apparently. There is however, one text i've been dreading. That he's coming up for his things...this would make it so final, yet he still hasn't sent it. Pretty much all of his clothes and other things are at my house and I am confused at why he hasn't been for them. It can't be that he doesn't want to see me as we ended ok. Could it be that he doesn't want it to be final either? Or do I have my head in the clouds? Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 You said that this isn't the first time you've broken up... what triggered the previous break ups? Link to comment
evice Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Looks to me like he hasn't made up his mind yet. He is confused about something and not sure if to continue with the relationship. I would give him some space to sort things out for himself and wait for him to contact you. Good luck! Link to comment
rachie Posted July 3, 2008 Author Share Posted July 3, 2008 You said that this isn't the first time you've broken up... what triggered the previous break ups? They've never really been serious enough for us to be apart for long. It's usually been when we've had a drink and we start arguing, but we stopped going out as much. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 So, this is completely different from previous times? Are you sure there's been nothing to trigger this? Was there any change in his behaviour before he decided to break up with you? I agree with evice though, it sounds like he is confused right now, but the fact that this break up seems different from the others, might mean that it is going to be permanent. Link to comment
rachie Posted July 3, 2008 Author Share Posted July 3, 2008 So, this is completely different from previous times? Are you sure there's been nothing to trigger this? Was there any change in his behaviour before he decided to break up with you? I agree with evice though, it sounds like he is confused right now, but the fact that this break up seems different from the others, might mean that it is going to be permanent. He said he felt trapped, yet i've done nothing to make him feel this way. He is the one who wanted us to get a house sometime soon and said he wants kids. He always tells me how much he loves me so i'm just so confused. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 Did he tell you what made him feel trapped, or did he just say he felt trapped and ended it? If he gave no explanation and you have done nothing to make him feel that way, it may be that he just feels that he wants to explore other relationships. Whatever his reasoning, I think most people would be confused by this too. Link to comment
rachie Posted July 3, 2008 Author Share Posted July 3, 2008 No, we haven't really spoken since. He didn't really give much explanation. I just don't want to contact him and make it look like it's all i'm thinking about....which it is lol. Link to comment
rachie Posted July 3, 2008 Author Share Posted July 3, 2008 Also we work at the same place! Link to comment
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