lollipop182 Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 My boyfriend of a couple of years got into an argument yesterday, and decided to do separate things for the night. He told me when I called him today that he went to the strip club last night. We had had a discussion regarding this topic before, that I do not approve of strip clubs and him going there. I was pretty mad over this fact that he went with a friend, and then he told me that he got a lap dance. This made me so upset! It would be one thing for him to have a couple of beers and check out the girls, however He went out of his way to get a lap dance and paid for it. I am so angry, and quite surprised at how angry I am. To top it off the main reason he told me about all of this is because he saw someone I knew there, and was probably afraid they would tell me. I feel like I dont trust him, and I honestly feel pretty disgusted that my guy would have to turn to another women and PAY for sexual stimulation. Actually makes me sick to my stomach. Call me insecure, or whatever but I feel pretty strongly on this topic. I am very hurt by this, and not sure if I am overreacting because I decided to cool it with him for awhile so I can think. Obviously it is not just the issue of the lap dance, but the trust and disrespect that he displayed by doing this. I feel like I am not enough for him if he had to seek that out, and he blatantly disrespected our relationship. He definitely regrets it, however I am still seeing red and not about to forgive him. I know and understand that guys will always be turned on by other women and fantasize, I have no problem with him looking at pornography or even checking out other girls (discreetly however I have a huge problem with a naked chick rubbing all over him and him getting turned on by it. My issue is that it is borderline cheating, and just because you pay for it doesn't mean it's ok. Crosses the line for me. Am I overreacting and blowing this out of proportion? Link to comment
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