jhinesis Posted July 3, 2008 Share Posted July 3, 2008 I am completely smitten with my friend of several years. It's bad. He *does* feel the same way, but he has a girlfriend who he's too afraid to leave. It's an emotional affair really, it happened online over the course of half a year, we just became very attached to each other. We talk and confide in each other every single day for hours. He hangs out with me a few times a week, but we are good, nothing happens. He is really all I can think about, I look forward to talking to him every day. I know he has real feelings for me, but he's unable to leave her. I am miserable, I want so much to be with this guy but he keeps asking me for more time to figure out what to do. He doesn't want to hurt her, he did try to break up with her for me a few months ago but it didn't go as planned and she freaked and he gave in. I realize I shouldn't wait around for him and I'm not, especially since he can't give me a time frame in which he plans to finish it. I know you'll tell me to think of her and how this would make me feel if I were in her position, but you have to understand too that I didn't CHOOSE this. I certainly don't want to be miserable and stuck wanting someone I can't have. This is a terrible and lonely existence and I wouldn't wish my position on anyone either. I've been talking to a few guys online and they seem really interested. I mean, I like talking to these guys, but my heart really belongs to my friend so I'm conflicted. Should I keep talking to these guys and meet them and see how things progress in hopes that feelings will develop for someone single? I know my friend is jealous, though he and I both know he has no say in this because HE'S the one in the way of anything happening between us. I am just very confused and annoyed and frustrated and I need advice. Link to comment
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