skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 Hiya, Dating this guy- should hopefully be meeting tonight for our 2nd date. He keeps on adding other girls as his friends - he has 600 friends mostly girls. Should i be worried? Link to comment
hers Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 I hate guys like that. Ones who add nameless girls just b/c they are girls. I know people like that. It's a red flag for me. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 I hate guys like that. Ones who add nameless girls just b/c they are girls. I know people like that. It's a red flag for me. Yeah i hate it too - he seems like a nice guy plus we had a long chat over the phone. It's just the facebook thing i'm abit worried about. My friends have also pointed it out. Do you thing his one of these players? Link to comment
LE DHUY NHUT Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 I hate guys like that. Ones who add nameless girls just b/c they are girls. I know people like that. It's a red flag for me. 'Hate' is such a strong word.I don't think there's anything wrong with making friends on Facebook.Personally I have less than 100 friends and just a few of them I didn't know before but it was good getting to know them eventually. Link to comment
muichini Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 'Hate' is such a strong word.I don't think there's anything wrong with making friends on Facebook.Personally I have less than 100 friends and just a few of them I didn't know before but it was good getting to know them eventually. kinda off it seems. nuht. this guy seems to have 600........ I doubt he knows all 600 Link to comment
Stambler Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 I just got on facebook and most of my friends are girls. I just happened to work with a lot of women whom I haven't seen in years... most of them are married or in a relationship, but they are my friends! Oh, nice pic Sky... love the hair! Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 I just got on facebook and most of my friends are girls. I just happened to work with a lot of women whom I haven't seen in years... most of them are married or in a relationship, but they are my friends! I don't think all these girls our his friends - think he looks for them Link to comment
Carmine Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 To tell you the truth I didn't know people used facebook in their late 20's, so I don't know if it's any different for you, but I can tell you about similar guys/girls my age. I know a guy who treats facebook like a game. He's constantly bugging girls on it so they're always writing on his wall. That's how he gets his ego boosts, pretty immature ans silly if you ask me. It's also his way of showing that he's a hot item. Nothing ever came from any of his countless facebook flirts (though he did once friend some random girl and ask her out right on facebook, and because she loved his picture and/or was desperate, she accepted. He bragged about that one for weeks ](*,) ). Girls also do this too. Now and then I'll get friended by some girl in a totally different state. When I ask how they know me, they just tell me they friended me because they thought I was hot. Kinda flattering, but also kinda weird. Is it a red flag? Yes, keep your eyes out. Does it necessarily mean he's a player? No. He could be pretending to be a player to make himself feel better, which isn't a good sign either. A real player wouldn't need to go scouting on facebook to find girls. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 I will see how it goes then. Not sure what to think of it. Some girls have my surname too - he defo seaches for girls - but why? he is 31 - should he not start growing up? Link to comment
Stambler Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 Hmmmmmmmmm 600 does seem a bit like a "game" I suppose! Hey, I'm 47 and I love facebook. Most of my closest friends are in the UK and still all hang out together, so I feel "connected" thru facebook. But, back to sky's point.... 600 and mostly girls, probably a big red flag. Geeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssshhhhh, and you're such a cutie sky, don't settle for anything that seems a bit "dodgy" Link to comment
coolchick Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 To be honest, some people just get an ego boost by having a profile with that amount of girls on it. Has he ever spoken to the non-friends ones on a regular basis? Sometimes the furthest it goes is one or two comments then they ware off because they just dont have a clue about each other. I would go out and enjoy your second date, if he isnt your cup of tea then dont see him again. What harm would it do? Your both still technically single so getting to know each other. He may end up liking you a lot and reveal that all he really wants is to settle down. The other side is that you find out he's a player who you dont really like very much and thats when you stop seeing him. Good luck and have a lovely evening with him! Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 Hmmmmmmmmm 600 does seem a bit like a "game" I suppose! Hey, I'm 47 and I love facebook. Most of my closest friends are in the UK and still all hang out together, so I feel "connected" thru facebook. But, back to sky's point.... 600 and mostly girls, probably a big red flag. Geeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssshhhhh, and you're such a cutie sky, don't settle for anything that seems a bit "dodgy" Thanks He seems nice though - i really get on with him. I feel very good around him. Yeah i kinda see why it could be a big red flag - ](*,) hate feeling unsure Link to comment
Carmine Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 That being said, I don't think there's anything wrong with adding people who you might see periodically but never really talked to. The people who say, "I'm only on facebook so I can talk with the friends I ALREADY KNOW" is pretty close-minded and exclusive if you ask me. I've added a few girls (and some guys too) this way. Some girls responded when I wrote on their wall while others didn't, can't take it too seriously. After all, facebook at the college level is essentially drunk party pictures and horny bumper stickers. Link to comment
rokston Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 what are you worried about? that he's dated lots of people or that he's looking for people to date through facebook? i'm not sure that it is such a big deal. maybe he gets some sort of ego boost from it. sure, it's not ideal but it doesn't have to be a deal breaker either. also, what does he do? i know several promoters/djs for clubs that use facebook to sort of advertise events.. you could joke about it when you meet up and see his response. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 To be honest, some people just get an ego boost by having a profile with that amount of girls on it. Has he ever spoken to the non-friends ones on a regular basis? Sometimes the furthest it goes is one or two comments then they ware off because they just dont have a clue about each other. I would go out and enjoy your second date, if he isnt your cup of tea then dont see him again. What harm would it do? Your both still technically single so getting to know each other. He may end up liking you a lot and reveal that all he really wants is to settle down. The other side is that you find out he's a player who you dont really like very much and thats when you stop seeing him. Good luck and have a lovely evening with him! I have asked him if he meets girls from facebook and hes answer was no i'm not the sort of guy who does that. Sounds to be he wants a girl-friend the way he talks - he would say things like i don't like being on my own and am i loveable etc Link to comment
Raiden Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 I wouldn't read too deeply into this. I've never really understood the Facebook/MySpace gimmick, but I wouldn't hold a grudge against someone who is into it and has hundreds of 'friends'. Link to comment
ryan123 Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 i'd be a little worried by it also. people do that whole popularity contest(gotta add hundreds and hundreds of people they dont even know) when they're 12 and 13 and 14...When they don't know any better...Seems to me hes just adding any cute girl he sees...I dont know what that spells out for having a future relationship with the guy...Doesn't seem good. Link to comment
Stambler Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 Let's start an eNA Facebook!!!! I get first dibs on sky as my friend! LOL! Link to comment
Stambler Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 After all, facebook at the college level is essentially drunk party pictures and horny bumper stickers. That has to be the eNA quote of the week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO! Link to comment
Carmine Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 To be honest, some people just get an ego boost by having a profile with that amount of girls on it. Has he ever spoken to the non-friends ones on a regular basis? Sometimes the furthest it goes is one or two comments then they ware off because they just dont have a clue about each other. I would go out and enjoy your second date, if he isnt your cup of tea then dont see him again. What harm would it do? Your both still technically single so getting to know each other. He may end up liking you a lot and reveal that all he really wants is to settle down. The other side is that you find out he's a player who you dont really like very much and thats when you stop seeing him. Good luck and have a lovely evening with him! True. The guy I mentioned tried so hard to pass himself off as a player, but now he has a girlfriend that he's been secretly fawning over for the past 4 months. what are you worried about? that he's dated lots of people or that he's looking for people to date through facebook? i'm not sure that it is such a big deal. maybe he gets some sort of ego boost from it. sure, it's not ideal but it doesn't have to be a deal breaker either. also, what does he do? i know several promoters/djs for clubs that use facebook to sort of advertise events.. you could joke about it when you meet up and see his response. Yeah, it shouldn't be a deal breaker. If I wanted to go out with a girl who was very active on facebook, I might hold back just a little, but only because I'm not a big facebook guy, and when I hear girls ramble on about facebook I get so bored. I wouldn't NOT date her because I was afraid she'd be seeing a ton of other guys. Maybe she just likes the attention from them. If it's more than attention and she's really loose in real life, then that would be a reason to forget her. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 You are saying that you hate that he has 600 women on his facebook but I think it actualy makes you more attracted to him. Reason being if this guy is somewhat attractive and has all these women that he knows it makes you feel like you won a prize by him dating you. You feel like you are better then these 600 women. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 You are saying that you hate that he has 600 women on his facebook but I think it actualy makes you more attracted to him. Reason being if this guy is somewhat attractive and has all these women that he knows it makes you feel like you won a prize by him dating you. You feel like you are better then these 600 women. Hey, Well i kinda see it as hmmm maybe he takes lots of girls out like me But why search for girls - it's like he adds in 5 a day Link to comment
george237 Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 Hey, Well i kinda see it as hmmm maybe he takes lots of girls out like me But why search for girls - it's like he adds in 5 a day Who knows. I love meeting new people but not 5 a day. Also how does he have the time for this? I bet you he figured out a way to stop time that lucky guy. Link to comment
joesonlineaucs Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 Who knows. I love meeting new people but not 5 a day. Also how does he have the time for this? I bet you he figured out a way to stop time that lucky guy. Is it possible he's just really popular ? Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 Is it possible he's just really popular ? Desprate if you ask me. Link to comment
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