fiance's ex is going crazy- worried

[muichini]

I'm worry about my fiances's ex.

we live in michigan, and she lives in washington.

after my bf and her broke up she went lesbian, from what I know and started dating a girl nak, who just recently killed her self. she was a bit mentally unstable and had been in and out of an asylum.

 

my bf's ex sara is now just so down. She is having a lot of money problems having a hard time takeing care of her self, her parents don't work and live out of there car. and now she don't get what is left in life. she is wanting to off her self and there are so many reasons why that she keeps saying. she wants no one caring about her and just to let her depart this world.

 

I my self had a semi similar experience. except I got raped by a ex lover, and I ended up trying to off my self but some how turned my self around after a year and a half of failing.

 

I'm going to talk to her, about stuff to try and make her change her mind since I know that mind set of being like that. but I'm not sure really how to approach this with out making the conversation sour and depressing thru personal experience. can any one help me on how to talk to her.

[muichini]

can some one answer

[BellaDonna]

I think you should encourage her to seek professional help.

 

If her partner just killed herself, she must be going through terrible grief. If your fiance knows any of her family well- maybe he can contact them to let them know the state of mind she is in- and that she might become a danger to herself.

 

If I were you, I would not try to counsel her myself. The situation is too complicated, especially since she dated your fiance. She needs professional help and help from her family, if they are in the picture.

[muichini]

I think you should encourage her to seek professional help.

 

If her partner just killed herself, she must be going through terrible grief. If your fiance knows any of her family well- maybe he can contact them to let them know the state of mind she is in- and that she might become a danger to herself.

 

If I were you, I would not try to counsel her myself. The situation is too complicated, especially since she dated your fiance. She needs professional help and help from her family, if they are in the picture.

 

prob is her family is out on the street... her dad is a little off his rocker. and though that everyone was mooching off of him. so he quit his job, and they live out of a van.

 

she and her bro work together to keep a house going, but with all that's going on now, money is hard to come by and they are going to loose their house. I really don't want her to do anything drastic. her and I get a long quite well and she is nice, and some one special to my fiance.

[annie24]

i agree with bella - she needs professional help, mentally and career wise, more than you can or should offer. being her ex's fiance, i think you'd be kind of overstepping boundaries by doing something like, taking her in. find her the numbers of some low cost clinics in her area where she can get counseling. maybe there are some career centers too where they can help her find a new job. but i think you have to leave this to the experts.

[muichini]

i agree with bella - she needs professional help, mentally and career wise, more than you can or should offer. being her ex's fiance, i think you'd be kind of overstepping boundaries by doing something like, taking her in. find her the numbers of some low cost clinics in her area where she can get counseling. maybe there are some career centers too where they can help her find a new job. but i think you have to leave this to the experts.

 

well she keeps calling my bf and crying to him. and crying to me online. she's some times scared to call my phone. knowen her for a year. and she broke up with him, and she reached to me.

 

but I don't think she will go to a counselor or any of that sort. she's kinda at that point that life hates her and everything is going so bad she would be better off dead, and that she is past the point of no return. so working with her mite be hard.

[annie24]

but I don't think she will go to a counselor or any of that sort. she's kinda at that point that life hates her and everything is going so bad she would be better off dead, and that she is past the point of no return. so working with her mite be hard.

 

woah, that's a rather harsh statement there. i think anyone can turn things around. if this is your advice to her, perhaps you should not be talking to her on the phone.

 

you and your bf should encourage her to get professional therapy.

[muichini]

woah, that's a rather harsh statement there. i think anyone can turn things around. if this is your advice to her, perhaps you should not be talking to her on the phone.

 

you and your bf should encourage her to get professional therapy.

 

no not my advice to her. but I've know her for a little over a year and she is not the kinda person to give into something like that. and thats what she said about her self last night.