What do i do?

[some-guy]

I'll figure it out ..thanks

[NorthDallas40]

Am I her friend or a doormat.

 

Both.

 

At this point YOUR feelings are being hurt by her just as much as her feelings are being hurt by her ex.

 

You've been a good friend to her, great. But now it's time to look out for yourself and get off this merry-go-round.

 

I'd suggest cutting contact with her until she figures out what she wants.

[evice]

You can support her if she agrees to seek some prof. help. She needs it if she keeps returning to her abuser. You can't fix it for her.

[some-guy]

Forgot to mention that she is seeing a therapists which makes it all the more confusing.

[Excalibur]

There's nothing confusing about it. She has no self-esteem - so the abusive man's behavior is her being treated as she deserves, and as dismissively and abusively as she treats herself.

 

You're her retreat - not her salvation.

 

Just leave her to her own devices...and whatever happens happens. You can't rescue someone from themselves.