Waking up in the morning...

[Godwin]

Its like I am at ground zero again, its horrible. If I dream about her its worse.

 

 

 

During the day my strength builds and by the time bedtime comes(12pm) I am feeling good and confident.

 

The minute I wake up though, its like BANG, I struggle to get up for work, feel depressed, unmotivated etc They 40 minutes I take to get ready for work are a nightmare as well.

 

Any tips on how to get through this period would be appreciated.

[deang]

no tips as of yet but I'm in the same boat...mornings are always the worst. I gauge progress by how soon it is until I'm somewhat functional. Yesterday was pretty good but today blows but then again I switched from herbal to prescription meds so I'll have at least a week of crapiness before I build things back up.

[android]

try sleeping a bit early... and did u mention 12pm as bedtime? afternoon shift?

[Godwin]

Sorry I sleep from 11.59pm - 08.00am, then work 9.00am - 4.30pm

 

I normally wake at 7am though and lie and think for an hour, its horrible. Showering is also depressing, I just want to get out of my apartment and drive to work.

 

I am writing this at 9pm UK time and I feel fine now, a bit sad but otherwise ok. In 11 hours time I will be back to square one though.

 

Can I also just say thanks to all the guys/girls on this forum, they are really helping me and this forum is the reason that I actually think I am doing ok after a shortish period of time(6 weeks tomorrow).

[Godwin]

no tips as of yet but I'm in the same boat...mornings are always the worst. I gauge progress by how soon it is until I'm somewhat functional. Yesterday was pretty good but today blows but then again I switched from herbal to prescription meds so I'll have at least a week of crapiness before I build things back up.

 

What sort of meds are you on?

 

I have found that going cycling for an hour an night really tires me out so I can sleep ok and builds my endorphines. I feel pretty good after it. Cant recommend it enough!!!

[Clabs]

Hey Godwin

 

I know where you are at mate - mornings can be hard. Whay not try getting up a bit earlier and going for a cycle ride before work? I think it is all about trying to change your routine a bit.

 

By the way - did I miss your birthday yesterday? my bad! Happy Birthday mate!

 

Mark

[ImThatGirl]

Mornings are no fun as you are trying to adjust!

 

Something that helped me - - - Instead of using the buzzer on the alarm clock, I used the alarm clock radio. Found a great morning show that always cracked me up... And every morning awoke to that.. It was so very helpful!

[Godwin]

Cheers guys, and thanks for the Happy Birthday sentiments!

 

Yeah, the radio is a good idea. Will give it a try.

 

I am too lazy to get up early for a cycle though, like my sleep too much

[Nearwater]

Godwin, I had the same morning. I have been using halcyon to sleep and 25mg of zoloft.

I still woke up this morning at 4:45 and had this thing where I shake my foot and worry.

Thought so hard about calling her, cannot! She leaves for the summer in 2 weeks and I am tripping hard, there is a guy there she is planning on seeing. Work is hard too, not snapping at people and getting through the day, to get out of here and drive home, to hide out and start the cycle over. This has got to stop soon.

[Godwin]

I find that if I don't exercise that I am waking up at 4.30 also, its gets light here at 4am though so thats what is waking me up.

 

I actually slept in my spare room the other day felt ok for once, maybe the change of scenary gave me a better sleep.

[joed]

I actually think I am doing ok after a shortish period of time(6 weeks tomorrow).

 

I think you're doing spectacularly well after 6 weeks! Keep going. Everbody says it gets easier and it does though, speaking for myself (8 months out of a 17 yr relationship), the 'healing' is not linear and I still think of her last thing at night, first thing in the morning and all day long, lunchtime at work's a real 'slip back' time.

 

Best of luck to you.

[Godwin]

I think you're doing spectacularly well after 6 weeks! Keep going. Everbody says it gets easier and it does though, speaking for myself (8 months out of a 17 yr relationship), the 'healing' is not linear and I still think of her last thing at night, first thing in the morning and all day long, lunchtime at work's a real 'slip back' time.

Best of luck to you.

 

Thanks, I have truly surprised myself. I guess its because we never lived together and only really saw each other twice a week, she was very busy with work most of the time.

 

I also think the reason I lived such a single life was because I was scared of us breaking up and found it difficult to get close to her. I had mentally prepared myself for this for a while.

 

Also there is no-one else involved and she is taking this worse than me. My mum said she looks terrible, no makeup, cold sores, lost weight etc I just hope I can get REALLY strong before I see her out with a new man or hear about her and someone else. I am dreading this.

[android]

i cud suggest a little bright colours for your room and your curtains.. if its bit hard to paint them, maybe shift to another room. Make sure you get good sleep and when you wake up with the radio, maybe the colours should welcome you too... And maybe, try and hook up with someone at work or something, so that you're drawn to her.... I know this might not be a good suggestion since you are just barely breathing... yet...

 

and one thing i'd like to add is, you're not alone pal... you have everyone of us ready to help and support... just look over your shoulder? wat say u enotaloners???