joesonlineaucs Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Ok, I post here like every other day .... I've had many insecurities in my current relationship (both 19, been together for 2 months and a couple of weeks, in temp LDR cuz of summer (were students) and been friends for over 6 months now). In the beginning, probably week 3, I had insecurities about her cheating when she drinks, since when she drinks she gets pretty messed up (despite what she says). As the weeks have gone on, I'm totally over that feeling... Now that its like week 10 or 11, I have like insecurities about her maybe, just maybe, hiding something.... like on FB (facebook) she has news feeds but regularly deletes them out of the feed so it says she has "no recent activity" even though I know for a FACT she is on there 2-3x per day. In the past, I've had stupid insecurities like this since the 2nd week, usually turning out to be nothing, all is well. I just really think the reason I get insecure about "not so big" events is because if I ever got cheated on -- I'd be done, mentally, just messed over. How do I handle this ? I mean I trust her alot more than I did 2nd week, but no where near fully. I've never been cheated on (to my knowledge) and I wouldn't want her or any other girl to be the same. I know trust is huge, so i think of it as something that almost has to be "gained" over time, I think totally releasing everything at first is just too much. I mean I know trust is HUGE in a relationship so if possible want to try to get this resolved in my own head asap. Link to comment
thekid55 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I'm in the whole facebook game too. She may choose to be private and not broadcast her activities to the world. Maybe she has some facebook friends who "stalk" her profile and wants to keep things under wraps. Just be cool about it. You will definitely get further with girls if you don't obsess over the little things. She hasn't given you a reason not to trust her, so just trust her. Don't go on facebook all the time. Get a part time job..It's summer time. Enjoy her company. Link to comment
joesonlineaucs Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 I'm in the whole facebook game too. She may choose to be private and not broadcast her activities to the world. Maybe she has some facebook friends who "stalk" her profile and wants to keep things under wraps. Just be cool about it. You will definitely get further with girls if you don't obsess over the little things. She hasn't given you a reason not to trust her, so just trust her. Don't go on facebook all the time. Get a part time job..It's summer time. Enjoy her company. I have a F/T one bud , but end up on FB . Lol. and its a LDR so I see her 1x per week or 2x per month Link to comment
george237 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 You are both young and haev not been together that long. If you appear like the crazy bf to her and question her on everything it will only push her away from you. I would act like nothing is wrong and if you think she is seeing other people then you should as well. When you get back to school maybe you two will hit it off again Link to comment
joesonlineaucs Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 You are both young and haev not been together that long. If you appear like the crazy bf to her and question her on everything it will only push her away from you. I would act like nothing is wrong and if you think she is seeing other people then you should as well. When you get back to school maybe you two will hit it off again How do i deal with it in the meantime ? I know school will hopefully be better... Link to comment
Lamprey Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 In the meantime, stop obsessing over it. I realize it's tough, but heck - the more you overthink it, the worse it'll seem. Link to comment
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