Does NC Work?? Here is the answer.. sorta

[bramage]

Here, this young man, much like us; is sick, and hurt 4/28/08

 

 

 

And now, it's all better 6/30/08

(Way to go blgmike2)

 

However it was 60 days, and the NC was a little weak. Its good to see someone say:

 

Does she miss me, is she thinking about me, only to come back 60 days later with: (Let this be a lesson to you noobs who want to break NC- DONT DO IT!!)

 

So my ex called me last night and told me she wants us to get back together.

"i dont want to hurt you ever again"

"i have missed you since day 1"

"i wanna work on things"

"I'll do whatever it take to get you back"

"i know we can be 'that' couple. i love you"

[feelinblu]

Amen to that! It's great to see a story like that. NC works! That's proof- he got himself back together, and now it just so happens that she wants back into his new "together" life.

[Comeback_Kid]

Truly Inspiring

[Mustang]

I don't wish to burst people's bubbles but I hope people don't look at this story and ASSUME it will happen to them too because essentially you are setting yourself up for more pain in a few months time if your ex doesn't come back to you with the same words.

[IMAbadman]

When I grow up I want to be just like blgmike2.

[LW4E]

I don't wish to burst people's bubbles but I hope people don't look at this story and ASSUME it will happen to them too because essentially you are setting yourself up for more pain in a few months time if your ex doesn't come back to you with the same words.

 

totally true

 

however...

 

I don't think I've seen one person on here who was upset that their ex didn't come back after an extended period of No Contact... so much time without the ex had these people realizing that they are perfectly capable of surviving without their exes and had moved on without them... realizing that they don't need their ex to be happy.

 

As far as I go, even though I have yet to have a successful attempt at No Contact, I feel as though I have moved on enough to realize that I don't need my ex and never did... I'm sure I would have realized this sooner had my previous attempts at NC worked.

 

Today is my first day of strict No Contact, I'm avoiding msn, stressing the point to my family that if she calls, I am NEVER home, and I'll check my E-Mail as I normally do, once every day.

 

So far, this attempt at No Contact has already had a pretty tricky bump, last night (Which I vowed to be the last night I see her) she said to me that she had driving school in the afternoon and needed me to watch her little sister while she was out. I felt a bit mean for doing this, but later on, I E-Mailed her telling her that I couldn't because I made plans with a friend... I felt like an ass when I did it, but now I don't really care, perhaps the guy she left me for can watch her sister... What? Oh yeah, he lives in England... oh well

 

First day for me, so far it's easy, but who am I to speak? I've only been in NC for about 12 hours, and I've slept through 11 of them.

[Mustang]

totally true

 

however...

 

I don't think I've seen one person on here who was upset that their ex didn't come back after an extended period of No Contact... so much time without the ex had these people realizing that they are perfectly capable of surviving without their exes and had moved on without them... realizing that they don't need their ex to be happy.

 

That is true but I was just speaking from my point of view. I went five weeks with NC and thought "yeah, I'm OK" when in reality I was only doing it thinking that my ex would crack and come back so all NC was in my case was a tactic.

 

Apart from that five weeks of NC, my ex and I have been in LC ever since we split eight months ago. We never see each other which makes it easier but I have realised that I don't need her in my life as much as I thought I did. I did put my life on hold for her and when she left it was a HUGE void but I've started to get back to the person I was before I met her.

 

Yes, I miss her a lot but I don't need her in my life anymore. Sooner or later, you just give up, NC or otherwise.