perceval Posted June 30, 2008 Share Posted June 30, 2008 Hi; first of all I would like to give credit to those operating this website; I have been reading a lot of articles in the forum for the past couple of weeks and have received quite a lot of useful insights. The reason I finally took the step to posting is this: I am in my mid-twenties and I work as a senior student at one of the most renown German universities. This semester I have taken a (optional) literature course that I found interesting but it didn't take me long to realize that there are more interesting things in life than books... I need to add that I haven't been in a relationship for five years now and although I felt that there was a void in my life that needed to be filled I haven't been on the lookout really (in a way, I always enjoyed my life as a single person). Things changed radically when I took that course and met a girl... I guess that all of us have notions what our future partner should be like that are more or less compatible with real life persons. In my case, the moment I saw her I knew that she was the ONE. Sounds a wee bit like a clichée but that is just the way it is... I have talked to her a number of times and had the impression that we "clicked" together and had a mutual interest in each other. But then I think I blew it...: after only two or three weeks I asked her out but she said she already had plans for the day in question. And although up to that point we had had the most intense eye contact I have ever experieced and smiled at each other accross the classroom the following week she seemed to avoid me altogether and her glances started wandering off and she didn't seem to notice me any longer. I'm at a loss here and I have no idea if it makes sense to continue to sue her. Maybe I rushed it too much and seemed too desperate, which definitely is a big turn-off... Anyways... I would appreciate to hear your opinions on this because I am uncertain how to deal with this situation and about further steps that need to be taken; obviously, love isn't science and you need to be thoughtful with the moves you make... Thanks a lot. perceval Link to comment
LE DHUY NHUT Posted June 30, 2008 Share Posted June 30, 2008 Try to get together with her again and if you don't get a definite 'yes' then you can keep your distance. Link to comment
brahman Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I would really like to point out that you seemed to move very fast. I have the very same problem. Get to know this girl if she will let you, wait a bit with lots of flirting, maybe she will soften. She might have noticed that cute guy accross the room AND THEN ALL OF THE SUDDEN THIS GUY IS LIKE HEY YOU WANNA HOOK UP? Just a thought? Link to comment
perceval Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 Thank you both for your advice, you confirm my thoughts about this topic; I have probably so confused her by rushing things that she didn't know what to think of me any longer; I was so certain that I never questioned my actions... and I do hope it's not too late to make amends and set things right. Link to comment
LE DHUY NHUT Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 If a single girl likes you she will go out with you.Ask her out soon. Link to comment
evice Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 She likes you as a friend and nothing more. Sorry. Move on. Link to comment
perceval Posted July 2, 2008 Author Share Posted July 2, 2008 Yep, you're probably right. Link to comment
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