teddybear123 Posted June 30, 2008 Share Posted June 30, 2008 I please my husband. But he is so Addicted to sex and goes to other women. He doesnt have to do that cause i take care of him at home..... Im confused at the point to where i dont know what to do.He is so Addicted to sex and i guess im not enough to please him. I make sure he has a Penetration each and every time with me.And he doesnt see that he has a problem and wont get help.I really love him or i would have left years ago.Im fed up with the cheating, lieing, Drinking, bar rooms and late night outs. People has told me the same thing over and over again ...Your staying with him is only showing him that he can keep getting away with it.... I guess im the stupid wife that thinks hes gona change.But he wont addmit he had a problem and wont even think about getting any sort of help.Im only 43 and he is 54. I was told he gives the women hes cheating with large amounts of cash.He gets younger girls in their 20's and 30's. I dont even know how it feels to be loved and appreciated for who and what i am and stand for.I have never my 25 years of marriage to him have never cheated on him. The thought never crossed my mind.Cause i was so in love with him. But rest asure you Its slowing dying for him inside.I sure wish i could mess his sex drive up for him so i could laugh about it after im gone. Does anyone know anything i could do to destroy his sex drive?????? After all i gave that man the best 25 years of my life...And couldnt even think about ever cheating on him. Now thats what i call Love>Its time for me to move on i know but its so hard cause ive been with him for so long. I just wished he would go get help to save our marriage... I had become afraid that the rages would escalate to physical violence. I am struggling with the idea that I did not give it my all and I am still trying to understand what happened. I need to understand in order to move on. One of the ways that my husband controlled me (I think) was to demand sex at least twice a day. I have always enjoyed sex, I could not keep up the pace. Any time that I declined sex (whether I was tired, didn't feel well, had a broken leg(!), or was just burned out), he stomped, pouted, sighed, etc. Every instance where I declined resulted in a lengthy discussion which usually ended with him shouting, and cursing me out. Calling me names ect...concerned that I didn't love him, would rather be with other men, missed my old boyfriends, etc. None of this was the case. When sex 7 times per week wasn't enough for him, he started complaining that I was a control freak, and that we only had sex when I wanted it. I had to explain to him that this wasn't true, since he had put so much pressure on me to have sex all the time, that I didn't even want it any more! I was only doing it because I didn't want to have the arguments. (Sometimes he would wake me from a sound sleep at 2 am to fight about our "crummy" sex life). And get it from me or die!!!! Forcing sex on me. I finally got to the point where I didn't want to have sex with him because I felt like i was just a woman there for only his needs when he wanted it and he paid no mind to what I wanted or felt. He has not been one single night in 25 years of marriage to him that he went without sex from me. I hate sex now, but I still Satisfy his needs..life for the temper rages to escalate to the point to I have to do something to get out. I'm Open to any and all suggestions. He is driving me off the wall with his addiction to sex. And I found out he has been cheating on me for 20 years with younger women. I also caught him in my bed in the act with another woman 2 years ago. I was dumb and took him back. Now its worst than ever. Im Open to any answers or advise that you could share to maybe help me figure out what to do next....Feel free to email me anytime or send me a private message. Thanks~ Karen Link to comment
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