icarus27 Posted June 30, 2008 Share Posted June 30, 2008 I am confused about the girl I got to know over the last two months, who as time went on, made it no secret that after our first date, she started to see me as attractive. On account of work taking her abroad, we weren't able to meet for two months, and during that time some of our exchanges got hot and heavy to the point of 'text sex'. After our second meeting, she has written to me to say that she recognises the connection is there but doesn't feel the added electricity that she knows she feels for someone when it is there. Neither of us have changed in the time apart, we are physically the same people we were. I am wondering whether she idealised me during our time apart; but hey that's hardly possible: she knew what I looked like, my body type, and was fine with it. In fact, before our date, she was texting me joking if I would still like her because she has not lost weight in the time she was away. So it was she who was worrying more than me about coming accross as attractive. She has confided to me about a raft of other issues she has, among them most worryingly commitment phobia, and a Peter Pan complex where she says she only feels at age 29 that she is just starting to grow up. The night of the date she was apologising beforehand for being shattered from a work deadline she had been working on all week, then a late night dinner the evening before she met me - which had all left her absolutely tired out. She even didn't have too much wine on the night because she was getting dizzy moments from tiredness. I am wondering how on earth someone could even hope to feel electricity under these conditions. As the days have gone by, I am realising this is a lost case, and that all I can do is move on. I'm trying to figure out if there is anything *at all* I can do here. Link to comment
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