Was it my fault?

[Lilla]

It is incredible that he broke up with me 3 months ago and now I am hurting again as if it had happened yesterday. It is hard to believe that little things still make me think so much.

 

Today I got a mail from one of my friends who is a good friend of my ex's brother. It was her first mail in 3 months.. She really thinks I broke up with him. She says she understands it was a difficult decision, but if my job is more important, then I should work hard now.. I am just so hurt by her words.. I was the one who was begging to my ex not to break up and my friend really thinks it was my decision.. and it is even worse: now I have really doubts if it was my fault.

 

I wish I could get him back, I am just so sad again.

 

Sorry, I don't even know why I am writing all this..

[bambina maxima]

Lilla, would it help if you set the record straight for this friend?

 

I'm not saying it would, but it might be something to consider. It feels awful to be misrepresented in a situation like that.

 

I wouldn't say it like "No way missy...he broke my heart!" but more like "Hey X, thanks for getting in touch. Funny that you were under the impression I broke up with him...it was actually the other way around. But it's entirely moot now, isn't it? [insert joke here]"

 

Well...just an idea. In my case, I would probably want to correct that misunderstanding.

[IMAbadman]

Lilla, would it help if you set the record straight for this friend?

 

I'm not saying it would, but it might be something to consider. It feels awful to be misrepresented in a situation like that.

 

I wouldn't say it like "No way missy...he broke my heart!" but more like "Hey X, thanks for getting in touch. Funny that you were under the impression I broke up with him...it was actually the other way around. But it's entirely moot now, isn't it? [insert joke here]"

 

Well...just an idea. In my case, I would probably want to correct that misunderstanding.

 

 

I agree with this logic. I wouldn't want to be misrepresented.