Anybody Who Hates Cuddling?

[RedWingsFan]

I've been going on a few casual dates with this girl. We've never even kissed; we're still at the initial attraction phase. But she mentioned that she "hates cuddling." I call blasphemy!

 

I LOVE cuddling. I think it is very intimate and I love to wake up cuddling, cuddle during a movie, etc.

 

She is, seriously, the first woman I have met who hates it. Anybody else with the same opinion? ...I'm really confused...

[PulsarSpin]

No expert here, but maybe she has intimacy issues.

Lots of people don't even like to be touched.

Lots do.

[Supa_gurl]

LOVE cuddling.

[pinkelephant]

my mom used to hate it. she HATED being touched, being held, etc. She didn't even like it with her HUSBAND who she was VERY much in love with.

 

 

i grew up with a very very cold woman. LOL so i cuddle whenever i possibly can.

 

 

 

& No, she didn't have intimacy issues, she's caring but in general, she's the same in other aspects. she expresses her love sometimes but as practical as possible. Like, in a logical kind of way. She sure is weird in that aspect. No issues, just simply...... not into cuddling/affections.

[starlight40]

I love cuddles too, if im down sometimes a cuddle helps me more than any words could. One of my exes was not very affectionate and i hated it

[hers]

I call intimacy issues. If she doesn't like cuddling, she doesn't like sex maybe. Doesn't like kissing. Doesn't like to hold hands. All that good crap that comes with relationships.

 

Maybe she has issues from childhood you don't know about. Who knows...

[Weeblie]

I don't like being touched in general, but I looooooooooove cuddling.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Some people just need their space. I wouldn't automatically assume that she is a cold person or a freak just because she doesn't like cuddling. Maybe she said that to you now because you are casually dating and she hates cuddling when it is just casual and not a full-fledged relationship. Lots of people cuddle when they are casually dating..but what point is it for other than to feel an artificial closeness to someone...cuddling has meaning in a loving relationship, but in a casual relationship it is just about the warmth of two bodies...nothing more. So I think perhaps over time you might understand if she said it to make sure you don't start invading her space with cuddles unless there is a relationship. Who knows what her reasons are..but since you barely know her at this point, all might be revealed over time.

[smirkingvagabond]

I don't get this kind of reaction from women! I've never known a woman before my current GF who didn't like to be touched.

 

I love cuddling and kissing.

 

And men are the ones who are supposed to not like the intimacy... *shrug*

 

I just don't get it.

[itsallgrand]

Some people are truly not big cuddlers. Not all of them are emotionally screwed up. lol.

 

I love cuddling.

 

But you know, time will tell as CAD said. Maybe she was just talking.

 

The actions speak louder than loud proclamations like this! She might be cuddler in certain situations, or in her own terms.

 

Sometimes I've found that people say things that aren't 100% true, but that are more a reaction to something that's happened or that is on their mind at the time.

 

Like sometimes a person had a clingy partner, and so you hear "I need independence! I hate cuddling!"...but in reality they still like connection and cuddling too...just not in the extremes that they are reacting to. lol. Does that makes sense.

[PulsarSpin]

 

And men are the ones who are supposed to not like the intimacy... *shrug*

 

 

 

Gotta love a good stereotype comment.

Booooo!

[CallingAllAngels]

I love cuddling. I can't imagine intimacy without it.

[thejigsup]

I'm not a big fan of cuddling or a lot of touching in general. I wasn't raised that way. My parents didn't show a lot of physical affection to us. They gave us an occasional hug and all that, but not the gushy "kiss you whenever they saw you" stuff. All three of us kids are the same way. I only hug my son and bf, and then only briefly once in awhile. I am not cold at all! I am a very giving, loyal, fun person who loves to laugh, always has a friend's back, and helps anyone whenever I can. Funny thing, my sister and I ended up with guys just like us and there are no problems at all in our relationships. My brother married a girl who liked cuddling and touching and after 30 years, they divorced because she felt unloved. She wasn't at all, she just felt that way. People who need their physical space are not necessarily cold, they just don't hug or cuddle much. When it come to sex, I do like to be touched, but not really kissed. Hugging is great right after sex for a little bit. I know I'm different than many people, but I'm definitely not cold.

[smirkingvagabond]

I remember when I was growing up, hearing on the talk shows(Pre-Jerry Springer), reading in the women's mags, and just listening to women talk...( I was raised by ALL women). They all wanted intimacy, cuddling, touching, kissing, and a man that could last longer than 5 minutes in the sack... Where have all these women gone? have they all disappeared?

 

IMO... it seems that men and women have changed stereotypes.

 

My GF was raised in a household where there was seldom affectionate physical touch shown. Her parents were very sparing with any kind of affection. So now, she is the same in her relationship with me. She does try, but it's NOT in her nature.

[Portage]

I was raised in a very non-demonstrative household, however, i knew i was loved.

 

So having said this, yes i love cuddling if it is with the right person and it isn't 24/7. I'm uncomfortable in public, though, hand holding is fine. I just hate to see bodies drapped upon other bodies when it comes to PDI, but behind closed doors...touch is therapeutic.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Wow, how can someone HATE cuddling?!

 

I could spend all day nuzzling and caressing!

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I was raised in a very non-demonstrative household, however, i knew i was loved.

 

So having said this, yes i love cuddling if it is with the right person and it isn't 24/7. I'm uncomfortable in public, though, hand holding is fine. I just hate to see bodies drapped upon other bodies when it comes to PDI, but behind closed doors...touch is therapeutic.

 

I hear you. Cuddling has its time and place..but some people just cuddle way to much and you have to wonder why they need it so much.

[vagrant]

I hear you. Cuddling has its time and place..but some people just cuddle way to much and you have to wonder why they need it so much.

 

Well.. you see that's the thing. Some people NEEDit more than others do.. just like sex. I want(need) it 2 or more times a week, just to feel sane. On the other hand, my GF prefers with it MUCH less frequency...:sad:

[Portage]

Well.. you see that's the thing. Some people NEEDit more than others do.. just like sex. I want(need) it 2 or more times a week, just to feel sane. On the other hand, my GF prefers with it MUCH less frequency...

 

Then in order to make a relationship work you both need to compromise. If the love and respect is there and you feel you need more affection, well, she should be willing to extend that effort.

[ghost69]

i'm too big to cuddle. my arm goes numb. lol

 

but a girl can rest on my chest while watching a movie or something. i always enjoyed that. or my hand on their butt. now that is nice.

[vagrant]

Then in order to make a relationship work you both need to compromise. If the love and respect is there and you feel you need more affection, well, she should be willing to extend that effort.

 

She doesn't feel any need to compromise.... We are on way opposite ends of the spectrum on this. Neither of us see what the big deal is..

 

I don't see what the big deal is to have sex.. after all WHO DOESN'T LIKE AN ORGASM??

 

She doesn't what the big deal is to not have sex....

 

She's just not willing to compromise... I on the other hand, have no choice(Unless I was willing to go out and cheat, which I'm not.) If she doesn't want to.. I'm out of luck.

[nicky8989]

hmmm well i can honestly say im not a cuddler and my bf is...

he doesnt get it sometimes haha, but he does admit that in certain situations, i get 'clingy' or cuddly in a way...when a pretty girl walks by us, and hes talking to a former love interest...stuff like that. i guess im protective.

 

btw, i think that in most cases, this stems out from intimacy issues/trust issues

[JadedStar]

I've been going on a few casual dates with this girl. We've never even kissed; we're still at the initial attraction phase. But she mentioned that she "hates cuddling." I call blasphemy!

 

I LOVE cuddling. I think it is very intimate and I love to wake up cuddling, cuddle during a movie, etc.

 

She is, seriously, the first woman I have met who hates it. Anybody else with the same opinion? ...I'm really confused...

 

Cuddling is one of life's little pleasures!

 

I was raised in a home without a lot of touchy feely stuff and honestly I don't like that way of life. I hug my kids all the time and my SO and love to cuddle. Somehow my parents and their standoffish ways did not affect my ability to want to love and touch those i care about. My kids grew up getting hugs all the time and i lvoe to cuddle with my SO. I think maybe i am opposite from those who grew up similar - my lack of getting hugs growing up made me want to give them to those i love even more.