always_hurt Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Hey, Was hoping to get a few people's opinions here coz i dont know if im being unreasonable having the sort of thoughts that are in my mind at the mo I met my current boyfriend at work 2 years ago. He had a long term girlfriend but wasnt happy with the relationship. We both got closer and he decided after a lot of thought that he would like to end his relationship with her and be with me. That was in december but she wasnt told about us until March this year because he didnt want to hurt her. I understood this and knew that it would be a very hard thing to take. Im not proud that he had to end a relationship but we both fell in love and resisted it for a year and a half due to him having a gf When she found out about us being together i received very many abusive emails, which i accepted because i knew how hurt she was. He didnt get anything like i did and just constant texts and phone calls about how much she loves him. Again, i accept that because you cant just stop loving someone and its even harder to when you find out they're seeing someone else. She emailed me to say that they are still in love and that i have to accept that. My problem here is this tho...i accept everything that she has to give me. But what im hurt by is the fact that my boyfriend still continues to be with her on a regular basis. Not just as a group thing (which i think is fine because i cant expect to take their friendship away) but actually meets up with her alone for dinner and goes shopping with her. If they had been ended a long time and there was no feelings there then i would know i cant be upset, but this girl has clearly told both of us that she still wants him back and is in love. My boyfriend says that i should trust him and no matter what she wants it still doesnt change that he wants me. Its not about trust honestly, i do trust him and trust that he wont hurt me. But its about respect you know? I feel he is being disrespectful to me by meeting up with her alone and also pro-longing her getting over him by still doing this Last night, he went to her house alone. He told me he was just dropping things off that he still had of hers. Four hours later, he phones me to say that he stayed for dinner n watched a film. I was sooo upset by this! Dont you think thats far too cosy? He told me about it and obv has nothing to hide but its just the fact that he finds this acceptable behaviour! Plz help you guys and let me know that im not just being unreasonable. I have to stress that i genuinelly believe that he is not cheating on me and loves me so trust isnt the issue. Thanks for reading x Link to comment
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