Phoenix_girl Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 OK so i met this guy online and we talked a few times and he suggested we get together. He had alluded to having a few drinks, nothing overly formal or serious. So we met up, and he suggested we sit on a bench, because his bag was heavy, and we talked about work and then i had to carry the conversation and he didnt offer up to much information. And then he looks at his watch and says he has to go as he has plans! Our "date" lasted 10 minutes! Of course i have no desire to ever speak to him again, but i have no idea what i did wrong. Any insight?? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Some people have very particular looks requirements - a specific type - and they decide very quickly if you are that type. Be thankful that he didn't waste more of your time. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 He just wasn't interested. I'm assuming you guys didn't exchange any kind of pic prior to meeting? Link to comment
Phoenix_girl Posted June 29, 2008 Author Share Posted June 29, 2008 Actually we did - several in fact. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Actually we did - several in fact. Really? Well like someone else said, be glad he didn't waste more of your time. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 sounds like your photo didn't match how you looked face to face. That's the only explanation for a 10 min date Link to comment
Phoenix_girl Posted June 29, 2008 Author Share Posted June 29, 2008 Other then my hair being longer and the fact that i wasnt wearing my glasses, i look the same. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Other then my hair being longer and the fact that i wasnt wearing my glasses, i look the same. The question that you are asking can only be answered by one person THE GUY YOU WENT OUT WITH Link to comment
dream83 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 maybe he's got a thing for glasses. or maybe he's just an odd bird. Link to comment
Carmine Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 He could have been having really bad digestive problems that day. Link to comment
sti_2004 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 he could be spider-man or superman. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 he could be spider-man or superman. or spiderwoman/superwoman....... I think it's a mistake to think that liking a picture means you'll be attracted in person - attraction is so much more than just features or body type - it's in person body language, energy and those darn pheromones..... Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 or spiderwoman/superwoman....... I think it's a mistake to think that liking a picture means you'll be attracted in person - attraction is so much more than just features or body type - it's in person body language, energy and those darn pheromones..... That's what makes online dating tough because you have to get over TWO HURDLES, the attraction online and then the attraction offline. I have to say that something similar happened to me 10 years ago but it wasn't a picture involved. We were just going on the sound of each other's voice and when she came to meet me I went to walk toward her car and she just SPED OFF-lol At the time my self esteem was SKY HIGH so it didn't bother me and I actually laughed. If something like that was to happen today then I would be very affected by that. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 No - I don't see it that way. I didn't need to be attracted to someone on line because those feelings have little or no connection to real life. I did have to find their picture a "yes" or "maybe" rather than "no way" - the no ways included men who were horribly obese, long hair, not well groomed, sleazy or inappropriate photos, etc. that wasn't about "on line attraction" that was simply whether there was any way there could be potential if we met. in real life you also have to find the person acceptable looking "at first sight" - if you don't, then perhaps that person will become more attractive as you get to know the person but that won't happen in a club scene because of the environment - that usually only happens if you both are in the same organization, office, do the same activity together, etc. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 I'm not sure I understand why you would still talk to a guy if is photo is a "MAYBE". I thought you either had to think he was Cute or You Didn't Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Because attraction for me is based on far more than physical features so if he is a maybe from the photo he could very well be a YES in person depending on his body language, eye contact, the way he carries himself. And of course he may photograph poorly. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 30, 2008 Share Posted June 30, 2008 you met a guy for 10 minutes. there should be no hard feelings. forget him. Link to comment
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