CoCo2009 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 and I have to see him all the time when most people don't have to see their ex, I hate my life so much I'm hurting and I want the hurt to go away. I don't have no one to talk to I don't have any friends Link to comment
nuttybuddy Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 hey love, i'm here. we r ur friends here. it must be tough to have to see him. that sucks. but u must look like you're moved on. u must look happy and confident in front of him. don't give him a hint that you are even wishing to be with him again. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted June 28, 2008 Author Share Posted June 28, 2008 why is this happening to me why do I have to through this, im a good person i really am Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 at least you get to see your ex. some people don't even have that luxury. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted June 28, 2008 Author Share Posted June 28, 2008 it doesn't feel like a luxury Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 do you ever want to reconcile with your ex? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted June 28, 2008 Author Share Posted June 28, 2008 I do but things are so messed up it seems I don't even know if this is the right thing to be wanting you know Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 yeah, I know. most people here do not advocate being friends with the ex. I tend to disagree. I want to keep my ex's in my life. Comfort factor and stuff like that. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 Bad things happen to good people all the time. You are not being punished, it might just be that you are being tested for the next step in your life journey. While my son recovers from surgery I have to see my stbx everyday for hours on end. It is absolutely no fun at all. She cheated, lied and betrayed me and our family so I really don't want to be around her in the least, but I do it for my son. I take the high road and show no emotion towards her one way or the other. It is not a game, just a way of not caring what she is doing or who for that matter and not letting her control my life with her selfish actions. You have plenty of friends here! You can PM me and many others here anytime. lost Link to comment
streaky Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 why is this happening to me why do I have to through this, im a good person i really am It's not just you; "it" happens to about 50% of everybody who gets married. Being a good person has no relevancy. Good people get hit by buses too. You will heal, and grieving is a normal and necessary part of that process. My advice is to accept what has happened, grieve it, and move on. It will take a couple of years, but someday you will reflect on this marriage and its failure as a valuable learning experience. Trust me, you will. Link to comment
blackgnat Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 You are in a lot of pain about this guy, but is he worth it? Think of the mean things he said and did. You have to go into the territory of "If he wanted me, he'd be with me". It really, really hurts to have to accept those kinds of facts, but you have to be realistic. Cry your tears and feel your feelings and they will subside with time. It's probably more difficult to heal because you have to see him, but don't look at him thru rose-colored glasses. He's only a man, not a god. Link to comment
Bob3000 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 why is this happening to me why do I have to through this, im a good person i really am I find myself thinking that a lot. Sure I've made mistakes, but I certainly feel like there's be a disproportionate amount of pain in my life recently. Not just from my break-up. I wish I believed in karma... There's a strong temptation to just become a bastard. It seems that being a decent guy doesn't do you any favours, so you might as well be completely selfish. But fortunately or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, I just wasn't made that way... Link to comment
gee Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 God is not punishing you! Get that out of your head! Things aren't always easy even for people that are good. Sometimes we have to go through trials and tribultaions, and God doesn't want us to suffer at all! We become strong individuals from these kind of experiences. Just believe and have faith! I have been there and I'm still hurt a bit from my experience. I just leave it up to Him and pray about it. Things will NEVER turn out the way you want them, it is when you least expect them. Take care of yourself that's all that matters at the moment. Good luck and I hope all your dreams and desires come true! Link to comment
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