bacci Posted June 26, 2008 Share Posted June 26, 2008 Not sure where to post. This married professor of mine wanted to have an affair. Told him no. He seemed to accept it and offered friendship. However, he constantly emails me when away, finds reasons to see me (work related) practically begs me to please keep in touch, tells me all about his problems and last email he claimed my words are his source of strength, his real or pretend neediness if very draining. I am kisking myself because I see this now as a trap, I feel like he is imposing on me some form of personal relationship that i do not want to have. I should add he is very powerful in my department (I'm a Phd student) and this situation sent me to the pscyhological department for help as it literally made me sick, (I've been a victim of sexual abuse in my youth). Before I file a complaint, which would be a no win situation for all parties, but it might be the only safe route at some point. I must document my rejection and how this 'closeness" and constant references to my beauty (mind and body) are unwelcome. I want to reject the friendship and communicate I cannot be such a close friend. I do not want to be his source of emotional support. this is affecting me badly d needless to say i am not attracted to this person, in any way. in fact , I find him immoral and manipulative, and a self centered egomaniac. I thought he meant it about the friendship, now i think is another strategy to get me where he wants to. He is very smart and good with words, English however is not my first language, could someone suggest polite but firm words to both make him back off while establish a document that I have rejected his advances, I think the harrasment complaint might be in the near future, he is relentless. Thanks much, B Link to comment
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