xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 I have not contacted my ex for quite some time and i begged him to be mates with me, but then i realised that i do not need him and i am over him i really am this time, but he has texted me saying that he wants me to come to his house 2moro at 7pm and we can talk So what do i do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight40 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Do you want to? would you want him back? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auburnslp Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 If you don't want him and are really moving on, I would respectfully decline his invitation. If you go over you run the risk of stirring up old feelings in yourself, and also giving him false hope if all hope is gone. Not a good idea if it is really over... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 No i begged him to be mates with me and he means for friendship not getting back together but i do not know what to say to the text really....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 Its his birthday 2moro aswell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auburnslp Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 How long has it been since you two split? Like I said, being just friends with an ex runs the risk of having the old feelings crop up again. I tried this recently with the ex that was the reason that I came to this forum in the first place, and it didn't work-after a couple months we were sliding back into intimacy, and I knew it was a bad idea so I had to tell her that I couldn't hang out anymore...and we had been broken up and completely no contact for over 4 years!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 No i am over him i like someone else and i really am over him this time i have got rid of things that i couldnt before thats how i know i have, we split two months today and i do not like him in that way anymore as i cannot trust him so there is no danger of me falling for him again, NOWAY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ccali78 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 How long were you 2 together. With dating someone new are you comfortable being his friend. Also I think he is missing you as it is birthday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight40 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Then i think id decline his offer Zarina, like you said, you begged him to be mates and he said no so why give him any of your time, i dont mean that in a nast way toward him i just kinda think, why bother? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auburnslp Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 well if you are completely sure of two things-that you are completely over and he is as well, then maybe it's ok...personally it didn't work for me and yet I realize that it may be different for others... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auburnslp Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 I do have to say though-it is usually better to just completely move on, past relationships, without having them in our lives. Not always, but usually. There apparently was some pain involved as you wrote that you can't trust him, and even if you don't believe this, after only 2 months I would have to guess that there are still deep emotions running for the both of you-good, or bad ones. It would be a dangerous thing to do, maybe it would be fine, or maybe a disaster. Up to you to decide if it's all worth that risk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 We were together for six months lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 Well i havent replied yet so i can just leave it like that if you guys think it is a bad idea Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight40 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Hey the choice is your Zarina, just thinking of you, you went through quite alot with that guy and dont wana see you get hurt again....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amya Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Well you don't sound too fussed about going, so don't! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 Yeah i know but i am over it as you have seen i have not posted in my journal about him no more and i did not make any thread wanting him back so i am over this, and i also ripped his pictures up and that i have not thought about him in a while and not texted me he texted me at 3.39am this morning i mean why wud he think of me in the morning when he was the one who wanted to be mates and then said he never and no he does as it is his bday 2moro and wants to see me on the day weird! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 Well you don't sound too fussed about going, so don't! Well if he had texted me 3 weeks ago and said that i would of been saying i want to go this is amazing but now the thought of seeing him is just not in my head no more as i got used to it and moved on you know, My mate said that maybe i shouldnt and say next time instead Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight40 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 If it was me i dont think id be putting myself out to go see him, maybe a happy birthday text tomorrow n that would be that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 I dont really want to text him that even though lol normally i would be so excited to reply but now i just dont want to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight40 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 then dont hun, you think of you, youve done great imo xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amya Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Don't then. I dunno your situation but if you aren't sure about doing it then I wouldn't, just carry on as if you'd never even read it. That's what i'd do if i was you, if i was me however i'd bloody FAINT if my ex txt me, he's being such a prat right now not wanting to talk to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 Don't then. I dunno your situation but if you aren't sure about doing it then I wouldn't, just carry on as if you'd never even read it. That's what i'd do if i was you, if i was me however i'd bloody FAINT if my ex txt me, he's being such a prat right now not wanting to talk to me. How long ago did you split? I did nearly faint the first time but then i got used to it and then got sick of it, the games are just childish and he is going to be 24 2moro haha wat an idiot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xtiarax Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 I mean im not sure i mean he is making an effort but it is too little too late i guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ccali78 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Yeah just reply have a nice birthday but I have bigger and better plans and let it go.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auburnslp Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 If that is you in the avatar then I can say that you certainly will never have a problem finding a man who will cherish and adore you, and if this one caused you a lot of pain, then I would have to say move forward without him, and look forward to MUCH better things. Why be friends with someone who has treated you poorly? I just don't get that... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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