Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Met her at Swiss Chalet, she was working there.. I dropped my number and who knew she called me, almost 3 weeks ago. We were gonna meet up earlier but she kept re scheduling it, but I knew she was different and there was something with her, so I kept the contact even though I kinda felt humiliated! She does modeling now, she was gonna send me her photos (the ones she can’t show to everyone if you know what mean) I refused , I am not that kinda guy, then she came out of her shell and told me how she was treated, she said she was pimped and treated in a way that no girl should be treated and she said she doesn’t want another episode of a guy sleeping with her and the next day leave her alone to start with her. I told her I am different, but she said she heard this line and she just doesn’t give her emotions anymore so she wouldn’t get hurt. When she told me this stuff I knew what she ment Now my question is what should I do on the date, I want her to know who I really am and she would never go through what she did with those other jerks. I will get her her favorite color rose ( I asked her). I am pretty sure the date would be great but I am just asking is there anything that I SHOULD or SHOULDN’T do? About the kiss// how would that go ? I won’t kiss her, what if she goes for it, should I back off??!! ( she would think I am gay or something) What should I do? Thank you Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Just play it cool, keep the flirting to a minimum since she has been burned but let her know your interested. Pay attention to her body language and initiate some of your own. Lean forward when she is talking and look her in the eyes. never cross your arms when talking to her, keep them to your side and relaxed. If she goes for a kiss than go for it but nothing else. Build off of her conversations but try to stay away from negative conversations. If she brings up her bad past, listen then AFTER she is done try turning to something more positive. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 well, with the kiss. If there is ever a moment where you are about to depart from each other for the night and there is this pause where she turns to face you and looks at you, that would be your cue. Link to comment
Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 Just play it cool, keep the flirting to a minimum since she has been burned but let her know your interested. Pay attention to her body language and initiate some of your own. Lean forward when she is talking and look her in the eyes. never cross your arms when talking to her, keep them to your side and relaxed. If she goes for a kiss than go for it but nothing else. Build off of her conversations but try to stay away from negative conversations. If she brings up her bad past, listen then AFTER she is done try turning to something more positive. Thank you very much.. I really appreciate it. in all my life I have been one 4 dates ( yeah I can actually count them on one hand!) and 3 of them became my gfs. I am really picky when it comes to dating, I don't date the person unless I really like her so these tips of how to act on them really helps Link to comment
Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 well, with the kiss. If there is ever a moment where you are about to depart from each other for the night and there is this pause where she turns to face you and looks at you, that would be your cue. Thank you.. would that mean that I am a guy who wants a kiss or some action?? thats my only concern because I am definitely not like that. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Thank you.. would that mean that I am a guy who wants a kiss or some action?? thats my only concern because I am definitely not like that. A kiss is pretty innocent for the most part. Especially a good bye kiss. Just keep it closed lips and smile sweetly afterwards. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 have you gotten the date set up yet? i didn't read where you had one set up. well, i guess your title counts. just keep it cool and fresh. act upbeat and really into the date. go for the kiss at the departure when the date is over. that's how i do it unless i feel compelled earlier. Link to comment
Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 We talked last night, it is gonna be thursday which is tomorrow and hopefully it won't be canceled again. There is an art show of one of my friends, if we can still catch it I was gonna go there. then dinner and drinks. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 you point at her with both index fingers and say 'i know (with a smile) SHOTS.' then look away before she can say no and order some washington apples. Link to comment
Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 you point at her with both index fingers and say 'i know (with a smile) SHOTS.' then look away before she can say no and order some washington apples. LOOOOLL hahahaha.. ok I will do that I am gonna call her at her break soon. in 2 hours to confirme everything for tomorrow. Link to comment
Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 have you gotten the date set up yet? i didn't read where you had one set up. well, i guess your title counts. just keep it cool and fresh. act upbeat and really into the date. go for the kiss at the departure when the date is over. that's how i do it unless i feel compelled earlier. YOu know your advice about leaving online dating worked maaan!! the way I met this girl was so random and required some serious GUTS!hahaha this is the post I had here from how I met her, not sure if you read it "I was out with my friend ordering a burger at this Harveys beside my house. When we were ordering my burger this girl who works there walks by the counter she is really gorgeous and is wearing glasses that look almost identical with mine (Dolce & Gabbana), so we looked at each other and both said a line like this" I like your glasses, or these are nice glasses (something like that)" so she goes to the back and I am thinking wow I must do something here and not just exit the store like I always did! So my friend suggest why don’t you right down your number and give it to her (something that I NEVER DO or DID!). The cashier was this very funny friendly guy so I asked him for a pen and wrote my number down on the back of my recipe and told him to give it to her. He goes to the back and gives it to her. So we are sitting down eating, I notice she came out and sat at another table with her friend just talking (taking a break perhaps) so when we finish lunch we get up and leaving I looked at here and made a point with my hand to call me, she says yes quietly and then waves at me goodbye with a great smile. So I came home kinda glad that I did and saying to myself she probably get asked out by guys all the time like that and maybe she threw it away but from how she said yeah I will call you and the smile I kinda knew she would. In the afternoon at around 8 I get a text message from here that’s he is sitting in a boring meeting so we start texting for a bit, before I go out with my friend. So she calls afterwards since I am out with the friends and can’t text anymore. We start talking on the phone, a very pleasant conversation she is very polite. She is 19 turning 20 in Nov. I don’t think she is too young for me, the she said she doesn’t like younger guys and I asked her so how is old is good for u, she answered you’re good. I found out she just got out of a relationship so I will be careful about not being a rebound here since she is young so the chances are high. I suggested that we should meet up in the next few days if you like but she has 3 jobs so she is busy but she said yeah that would be nice I will let you know. Then I say goodbye since its rude to be on the phone all night when I am out with friends! We go to have sheesha with my friend at a bar close by. It is 12 AM and I call her to say goodnight. That particular conversation went very well. She kept saying you are so cute.. at some point she said I wish I was there. Then again she mentioned we definitely have to get together I want to know more about you." Link to comment
TheSmilingTurnip Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 I think that you should be aware that you cannot really convince her you're not one of 'those' guys. Just have fun and be true to yourself and to your intentions. Only take actions that you think are respectful to her (ie that feel right) and you will be fine. Link to comment
Massari Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 I think that you should be aware that you cannot really convince her you're not one of 'those' guys. Just have fun and be true to yourself and to your intentions. Only take actions that you think are respectful to her (ie that feel right) and you will be fine. Thankyou very much. yess thats exactly what I thought..I mean there is only so much I can do here. and its up to her to make the right decision .. right? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 i'm glad you are off internet dating massari. sorry to others, i will never recommend internet anything. Link to comment
TheSmilingTurnip Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Thankyou very much. yess thats exactly what I thought..I mean there is only so much I can do here. and its up to her to make the right decision .. right? Absolutely. It is up to her to believe that she can pick right. People who've been stepped on tend to start distrusting THEMSELVES. They stop distrusting others when they start trusting themselves, that they are able to keep themselves safe from those who might harm them. If you just keep on showing her through your actions that you are one of the good guys, then she will learn to trust. It takes time though. Link to comment
lolz Posted June 30, 2008 Share Posted June 30, 2008 I think you should just act the way you really are, eventually she'll see that you are not one of those jerks she was unlucky to encounter previously in her life. There is no way to prove that you are not one of them during one single date, it will take time for her to see that. But I guess you guys had a date already, I hope it went well for you Link to comment
Massari Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 I think you should just act the way you really are, eventually she'll see that you are not one of those jerks she was unlucky to encounter previously in her life. There is no way to prove that you are not one of them during one single date, it will take time for her to see that. But I guess you guys had a date already, I hope it went well for you Thank you lolz.. well it was cancelled again, she did that about 4 times already she had things to do again, and its funny it is now Tuesday 1st of July Canada day and she is still talking to me! I think I am just a phone buddy for this girl! We have been talking for like a month now, I met her on June 12th!!!! Link to comment
HopeDaryl Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 First off, your Avatar is amazing. I would probably ask Asylan the same question. I think you should just relax and play it cool. Her body language will tell you if she wants you to kiss her. I think you got no worries and things will go great. Good Luck Just don't do what my buddy Rhett did, he found this girl at a bar and went up to her and said "Me and you are going to make out later... and it's going to be awesome." Last time I checked I think they got married. You never know Link to comment
Massari Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 First off, your Avatar is amazing. I would probably ask Asylan the same question. I think you should just relax and play it cool. Her body language will tell you if she wants you to kiss her. I think you got no worries and things will go great. Good Luck Just don't do what my buddy Rhett did, he found this girl at a bar and went up to her and said "Me and you are going to make out later... and it's going to be awesome." Last time I checked I think they got married. You never know Thank you very much. The avatar is the Iranian flag when we had a different regime and we had a king(may he rest in peace). I think the kiss would go natural as others mentioned here, if the date goes well and things go smoothly the kiss would happen naturally. Its now a question of actually going on the date!!! i don't know when its gonna happen. Link to comment
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