vhshowdown Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Hi all. I need some advice from you all, if possible. I have been flirting with this girl that last few weeks at her work. I have been chatting with some of her co-workers the last few weeks as well, but not flirting with them. I am hesitant to ask this girl out while she is working, I just dont feel comfortable with it for various reasons..... So, my question is, how could I "set-up" running into her outside of her work, like when she is out shopping or something. Can I ask her something that would give me an idea of her schedule? Could I be juvenile and follow her after work one day.... lol (no, I am not a stalker) I guess I would feel more comfortable if we ran into one another shopping or whatever, so then I could continue flirting with her in a more relaxing atmosphere and see if it follows outside of her work....... and if it does, then i would have no problem asking her out...... Any suggestions?? Has anyone had the same situation before?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 what is her work? she work in the mall? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnonymousMG Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 You're overthinking things, if you run into her @ work and she isn't around a lot of co-workers ask her if she has plans for lunch or something like that, just let things play out naturally that way and you'll be fine. -AMG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthDallas40 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Yeah, though it's inconvenient, you're gonna have to just ask her out and/or for her number while she's at work. Because if you "accidentally" show up somewhere else where she is and immediately ask her out, you may think it's romantic but most likely she'll see through your plan and think it's creepy and stalkerish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Just ask her out at work. It's clean and simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vhshowdown Posted June 24, 2008 Author Share Posted June 24, 2008 Thanks for the replies. I'll ask her out or to meet for coffee if all goes well tomorrow if and when I see her. I just feel akward for some reason doing it while she is at work, and I dont know why..... I just need to get over that awkwardness, and I dont know how..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnonymousMG Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 If you feel awkward, you'll come accross as awkward. You need to make yourself understand that there is nothing wrong with asking somebody out while at work. Have confidence, and go in there feeling in control. I'm guessing that you're expecting it to be awkward because you're expecting her to say no, and you would rather not have that happen in front of all her co-workers in a public place. You have to push those thoughts out of your head and realize that if she does say no, she's the one missing out; not you. -AMG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vhshowdown Posted June 24, 2008 Author Share Posted June 24, 2008 Ya, AMG, that is probably right. That is why I want to run into her outside of work, I know she will acknowledge me, talk with me, etc. outside of work, but is the flirting just that and only that, or is there more to it, I really dont know from her end. I know she gets a huge smile at me when I see her, and she is great to talk to, etc..... If we can have a good time away from her work which is only how I know her, then I would have no problem asking her out in front of everyone else she works with, even if she did turn me down.... I can handle rejection for the most part, but if I am wrong and it is only flirting on her end, then I still have to see these people and her, and that would be awkward as well!! Does that make any sense?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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