PolkaDottie Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I was raised to treat others how you want to be treated, so it is hard for me to be mean to someone unless they really deserve it. It is because of this mentality that I am having difficulties with a clingy friend. She and I were roommates last year and she did not have many friends, while I was involved in a lot of campus activities, so I know quite a few people and had many friends. Because of this, she would always ask to come with me every time I left our dorm! At first it was okay with me, after all she is a very sweet girl and a respectful roommate. Plus, I thought she just wanted to get involved in campus activities to meet new people. However, after a while of this she did not join any of the clubs I belonged to, and did not talk to other people when we went to these meetings and events. I realized there was a problem when she was planning a dinner party and said we should invite all of OUR friends...people she had only met once or twice through me. This was fine, I was happy to see her getting to know new people and thought for sure she would be inviting some of her own friends as well, which ended up not being the case. I felt bad and put up with this for awhile, but she began inviting herself places ALL THE TIME that were not just the drugstore, Target, grocery shopping, or a club meeting. I would meet old friends for dinner that she had never met and she would ask to come! I would be someone's date to a fraternity formal and she would ask to come! My friend and I are huge fans of this one band who came to a town near campus so we tried to get tickets, and my roommate asked to come too - even though she doesn't really like the band and she thought it would be fun. We already had tickets and she asked us to sell them and sit with her in the upper deck since she could not afford where we were sitting! But she was so polite about it that I caved in! My friends are getting mad at me and say I should just avoid her calls now that we will not be living together next school year. I felt bad, so I continued to answer her calls, texts, and Instant Messages. However recently she surprised me and I have finally had enough; I just don't know how to respond to this! I am going to New York City with three of my girlfriends. We bought airfare, hotel, and show tickets way ahead of time. As soon as the roommate found out about the trip she invited herself along! And this time she did not even ask if she could come - she just said "that sounds so fun!" and then told me she took off work to come and that she could not find a hotel so she will just be staying with us!! I said I was not sure there would be enough room and she said she would squeeze. I told her it would be impossible for us to get another ticket to our shows and she said she would just wait for us and go out afterwards. I don't know what to do. She is a nice girl but completely overwhelming and now it is on my nerves more than ever! Our trip is next week and I don't know what to say! If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice as to what I should do, please let me know. I know I probably sound rude and ungrateful for having a friend who wants to be around me so much, but it really is overbearing (not to mention my other friends cannot stand her because she is so protective of me and does not talk to them when she hangs out w/us!) Please help Link to comment
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