Anotherday Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 I'm sort of stuck here. I'm at the point where I am not interested in going out with anyone, but I would like to get past what's gone on in the last nine months. I ended (or it ended) an abusive relationship last September. I've never been the kind to go from one guy to the next but this is what happened. There were three in a row and all of short duration following the breakup with the abusive person and I'm afraid they knocked the wind out of me. I've gained 25 lbs through all this and am not happy about it. So...how to get back on track...? The first thing I have to do is to lose the weight I put on. My MO is heartbreak > gain 20 lbs > be alone until I recover > lose the weight > rinse and repeat. At any rate, I don't want to be alone forever, but I am so gun shy that I just hide in my house now. I know this isn't healthy for me but I find myself just not wanting to go anywhere or do anything. I've signed up for some meetups just to get out, but I always end up not going at the last minute. I'm an introvert by nature and I don't want to do the link removed sort of stuff, but at some point I know I will have to put myself out there. BTW, I am 39 and holding (if you know what I mean) so it's not like there are too many fish in the sea and I'm not getting any younger. Any advice? Thanks. Link to comment
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