Duckie2021 Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 How long is it supposed to take to get over your ex? (it's been 9 months already) I started my relationship with him when I was in high school. I was 17, he was 19. We had been friends for a few years. After HS I started work and moved out of my parents home into my own apartment. Shortly after that, we had a fight and he broke up with me. It destroyed me. I was so hurt. But he came back and wanted to get back together. He switched colleges though and moved out of town. I quit my job and moved in with him (finding a new job in the new city). I was so depressed. I really hated being away from my friends and family, I hated my new job and our relationship. I don't really know how to define "emotional abuse" but I think he was abusive in that way. He manipulated me into paying for everything. He told me that he couldn't put any money into our living costs because school took too much time and he had to concentrate on school (pls don't get me wrong, I understand the importance of concentrating on school). Yet, every free moment he had, he wasn't studying, he was out partying with his friends. He told me repeatedly that I was stupid and then look at me in disgust. He called me a b*tch all the time. I couldn't help but be a little b*tchy, I was working 12 hour days to pay for us to live, and then I'd come home to a disgustingly messy house that I had to clean up and him not be home (or home and passed out drunk). All I wanted was some time with him. If I asked him to spend some time with me, he'd tell me I was "needy and demanding". After 1 yr of living together he started leaving on the weekends, not telling me where he was going. I had had enough. I spent this last weekend deciding that unless he came back begging for forgiveness I was going to break up with him. He came home on the Sunday and didn't even acknowledge me when he walked in. Instead of breaking up with him I heard myself say "I missed you". What the heck! I didn't miss him, I hated him! Why did I say that?! And then he laughed at me. He said "yeah well I realized I didn't miss you, we need to break up, I can't handle you anymore". After he left, I changed my FB profile to "no longer in a relationship", he changed his to "now in a relationship with xxxxxxxxx" Obviously he'd been cheating on me. He hurt me so much, and I was so relieved to break up. Why do I miss him. Or do I just miss the idea of someone. The weekends are so hard. It's so hard to wake up to an empty side of the bed. I wake up and just want to cry. I totally hide myself away. I rarely do anything on the weekend. I just always want to be alone but I hate that I am. Link to comment
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