travelingcircle Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 hi, im a new member here and joined mostly because i dont know how to deal with this relationship problem. my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 6 months now. i would say many people would see him as the bad boy. he used to street fight and only have sexual relations with women. i would say im a innocent peaceful person, not a likely match. when we decided to go out, we decided to make the relationship the focus of lives. we wanted this to work. we are both in our 20's but recently our relationship became long distance (3 hours away). its hard between work and school and we often dont see each other. we do keep in contact all the time, phone calls and texting. when we do see each other, we value it. and i do believe we are both in love with one another. recently, we decided to have sex (within the last week). i was reluctant but i thought it would become part of our relationship. then a few days after i left that day, he explains he is dedicated to god. he says he is dedicated to our relationship and making it work but he is putting a lot of pressure on me. im an atheist but i respect his beliefs. i go to church with and such. he puts church before our relationship, he never swears, he insists on marriage, and no sex before marriage. this was not the guy i fell in love with. he has changed. im glad he is trying to improve himself but our morals and ethics are conflicting with mine to a point where i want to break up. how can i break up with him when i love him? why has he suddenly religious? we never see each other yet he would rather go to church but at the same time he seems desperate for making this work. he says he wants to fix his past. isnt it selfish to bring me into relationship where i have to pay for his mistakes? what am i supposed to do when he makes me unhappy yet i can barely live without him? help... Link to comment
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