How can you tell that there is something?

[sweetstar87]

Okay I'm 21, female, so i don't want any high school crap about how to tell if someone likes you, so none of that school stuff, like he looks at you from accross the room and what not. I have a best friend, 23, for the last 6 years and he well flirts with me. Is there any major signs that could give away to tell if he is just flirting, cause he is a natural flirt, or if he is doing cause he is interested in me and may want more then friendship?

 

I'd like a guys opinion more on this, but i will accept females advice too, just that guys know more then girls on this, especially the ones that are in college or done with all the education stuff (aka - work in the real world) lol.

[anthonyguy]

So if I got the math right you were 15 and he was 17 when the flirting started? Just a question there. But if it has been 6 years of flirting i would say there is more there the just plain old friendship. So i guess i am saying the the time this has gone on is a great indication of what your asking.

[nuttybuddy]

well, i'm female and i donno if u will appreciate my input, but here goes nothing. i had a guy friend since college and i always felt comfortable with him as a friend. but even though there was an inkling in the back of my mind that he might like me, since he never made a move, i was happy. i wasn't attracted to him romantically. i only liked him as a friend. and well, ten years out of college, finally, he begins to express that he likes me. and because i was going through a tough time in my relationship at the time, i brushed off his confession as a "i like u as a friend too!" type of thing. he tried to make it clear to me that he liked me more than as a friend, but i wasn't about to respond to that type of come on. in any case, we'd been friends for a long time. and i think guys can reach a point where they have the courage to risk the friendship for love.

 

oh! so to answer your subject question, i don't think u can really tell. it's just got to come out. until then, u r friends.

[SupaflyTNT]

You can tell a guy is interested more than just flirty if he initiates contact with you, asks you out on dates, and tries to initiate physical contact with you romantically. If he just flirts then he's either a natural flirt like you say or he doesn't know how to express his attraction and desire for more.

 

If he's worried about ruining your friendship then you might try escalating your show of interest and observe how he responds.

[sweetstar87]

So if I got the math right you were 15 and he was 17 when the flirting started? Just a question there. But if it has been 6 years of flirting i would say there is more there the just plain old friendship. So i guess i am saying the the time this has gone on is a great indication of what your asking.

 

Yes I was 15 and he was 17. I wasn't into him at 15, so I wasn't giving him the time of day and was sort of mean, but then again he wouldn't leave me alone sometimes, so I was annoyed, haha. Anyway, I sort of had a small crush on him that developed after a friends sweet 16 birthday party (I was 16 and he was 18 then). Our flirting escolated a bit and we were verbally saying stuff and he would be more touchy feely to the the point our friends were questioning us, asking if we were involved or if we were dating or if we even liked each other as more then friends. But we would both always told people "we're just friends". His best friend is also my best friend and she knew I liked him as more then a friend, we both used to joke and say he always had a thing for me. Anyway, now its years later and i asked him if he ever wanted something more in highschool, other then hooking up with me. He told me he did, but that nothing could happen. We both still flirt with one another and now that we're older, do you think he still might secretly have feelings for me?