Shudder Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 So I was just wondering about something.. when you ladies are out with their friends and some guy comes along and starts chatting you up, but leaves your friends out of the convo, is that a good or bad thing? I've heard the key is to include everybody in the conversation and then slowly after everyone is comfortable move on to whoever it is that you're interested in. can anyone confirm?? Link to comment
Jayar Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 It's important to be friendly with everyone but at the same time make it clear you are interested in one person in particular. Link to comment
arcadefire Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 It would show that the guy is mature and mannered if he talked to a group of girls initially than zero in on one. Like, he approaches the group, introduces himself to everyone, buys all girls drinks, etc. Girlfriends can make a huge impression by vocalizing their opinion of a guy, and it could possibly make or break depending on how close the friends are. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 Jayar has a good point. You need to be clear on which girl you're going for, otherwise it seems like you're trying to see if any of them bite. But at the same time you can't ignore her friends because it could make you look bad. I was at a bar and kinda making eye contact with this guy. He ended up standing near us, but was making conversation with my very very drunk friend it seemed like, even though we had been making eye contact. I was confused and kind of annoyed, haha. Link to comment
Jayar Posted June 21, 2008 Share Posted June 21, 2008 Jayar has a good point. You need to be clear on which girl you're going for, otherwise it seems like you're trying to see if any of them bite. But at the same time you can't ignore her friends because it could make you look bad. I was at a bar and kinda making eye contact with this guy. He ended up standing near us, but was making conversation with my very very drunk friend it seemed like, even though we had been making eye contact. I was confused and kind of annoyed, haha. Same sort of thing happened to me. A girlfriend and I were out eating dinner, and he actually came and sat BESIDE ME. He really made intent conversation with me, pretty well to the exclusion of my friend. Come the end of the evening, however, it became clear that he was interested in my FRIEND, not me, and I guess his focusing on me was some overcompensation or application of the "get to the friend if you want to get to the girl" mentality. I am sure it seemed logical to his buzzed brain. I was irritated. I'd much rather have had him GREET us both, but then focus clearly on my friend. Like this it just pissed me off. Link to comment
littlestar Posted June 21, 2008 Share Posted June 21, 2008 It's important to be friendly with everyone but at the same time make it clear you are interested in one person in particular. definitely agree with your response. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 i always introduce myself to the whole group. more focus on my target though. but yes, include them all. Link to comment
Godwin Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Sometime the most confident girl is the one in already in a relationship, the shy one could be the available one so its best to speak to them all. Link to comment
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