Family Help

[arizonasun]

I was wondering if you could help solve a problem between my wife and myself. We live within close proximity of both my wife's family and my family. Usually on holiday occasions, we alternate every year with where we go and bring our children.

 

This past year though, my father has become sick and I feel the need to be there again for christmas and new year - just in case it is his last. My wife doesn't seem to mind, but my in-laws are complaining about not seeing the children. My wife has offered to bring them over the weekend, but they are just complaining (or so it seems) that half the fun of a holiday is spending it with your family.

 

My wife and I believe we are doing the right thing, I guess we just needed a gut check.

[avman]

It sounds like both of you have thought this through. Ultimately, it is up to you and your wife to do what is best for your children. And having them see your father possibly for the last time at Christmas sounds like a good move to me.

 

Oh sure, other family members will complain. But don't take it too hard. Tell them you just did what you felt is best and thats the end of it. Its no slight against them. After a few weeks, they will move on to something else.