Porn When I'm Not Around

[MoonlapseVertigo]

I'm getting better at not letting it bother me, but could someone just give me reasons why I shouldn't let this consume my mind when I give my boyfriend his space? It's like as soon as he gets in from work he goes online and I'm pretty sure he's getting off more than once a night. Is that normal? Maybe it wouldn't bother me so much if I knew it was like once a night when he felt an "urge", but it feels like he does it to do it. I'm confused.

[neva_black_n_white]

hey.

have you discussed this with him at all on the aspect of it bothering you?

itmay seem awkard to you but it obviously he enjoys doing in his own personal time. i believe that you should just allow him to do this. him getting off on it isnt that bad of a thing its just something he enjoys. i wouldnt see it from the prospect of him looking at womnen and getting off on it because he is but he isnt in some sense. like i said its just a personal passtime that he enjoys.

 

if you havent spoken to him i would.

you may find that he doesnt like things that you do, you need to communicate more about this. and generally think about things you enjoy is his hobbies are annoying you.

 

good luck

[MoonlapseVertigo]

Hey. I like your Tifa icon. But to reply to what you were saying, we have discussed it plenty of times and he's tired of it and so am I. I've gone from asking him to completely stop to at least cutting back. It's almost like I don't like to give him the space because it seems that that's all he does. I asked him about it and he says he doesn't know why or that he just feels like it. It fact, it was embarrassing for me because he knew I was coming over one day last week, but I got there early and caught him about to start. Is it healthy to do it more than once a day? Like, in my mind, since he goes online as soon as he gets home, I figure he downloads, does it, downloads, does it again, etc. It's weird to feel that his world revolves around porn when I'm not around, but we don't have sex that often. I am one confused person.

[neva_black_n_white]

hey and thanks.

all i can think of is that he wont be able to do it again after one another, because he'll get worn out trust me. if he does it once a day that is choice to him and yes it is natural both men and women, i cant say if its a majority thing but it is natural.

about the health aspect its not advised too much when doing such things as sports but thats only because you'll have more testosterone in you and stamina.

 

ill have to look it up but i cant see a problem.

it may be that his life revolves round that in your eyes, but im guessing he also does other things. he genuinely might be going online like you do to come here or talk to friends im guessing anyway.

when you talked to him did you come to a compramise?

 

kel

[SweetypieEnlightenedOne]

I'm sorry Moon that you have to go through this with your guy, honestly I think you need to reconsider the definition of the lines of your relationship. If he loves you, and you have discussed this over and over andover and over again, and he refuses to stop and its something that is hurting you, you may want to seriously think about leaving this guy. My man does not have this obsession with porn, but if he did, i would talk to him about it a few times, after that, I'd be out like a light, and I'd move on to a man who doesnt have to do this. This is not fair to you, he knows you dont like it and he still doesit. I'm sorry, but he seems selfish to me.