Hiding Feelings

[mb_guy]

I was reading a book on the weekend and I came accross something interesting. The guy in the book was wondering that if he put his feeling for someone away and never think about them again, like ignore them, that they will eventually go away.

 

Is this true?

[neva_black_n_white]

hey mb_guy.

i feel that it depends on the person and how strong of an emotion you are relating this to.

for me there are some things that i can put to the back of my head and convince myself ive forgot, but they seem to crop back up.

and for powerful emotions such as love, and losing it, to me i wouldnt be able to forget and put it to the back of my head.

 

so really its dependant upon a particular person but i feel it possibly could happen.

just my thoughts.

kel

[enadevoli]

i think that if you try to keep your mind off of some body, like maybe an ex you still have feelings for, eventually you won't have those same feelings anymore. At least it works for me, but it doesn't just happen over night, it could take awhile.

[Gilgamesh]

I dont think that repressing fealing is a good idea, think of it as a little monster inside you that wants out.

 

well if you lock it away, it is not gone, just hidden somewhere, and under certain conditions can get loose and create havok on your life when you least expect it.

 

Now if you let this creature loose now, and deal with it, he will eventually tire and go away for good. never to surprise you later in life.

 

The problem with repressed emotions is, that you need all of them to be complete, when you lock away one or two feelings, you cannot love someone again completely because to be balanced and whole you need all your emotions intact. even the "negative" emotions are necessary.

 

So face your demons head on, whack em in the head a few times, until they are undercontrol and leave for good, thats when your healed and can open your heart to love again.

[mb_guy]

thanks everyone

 

this makes everything clearer about that subject. Gilgamesh was right that its not good to repress any kind of feelings. I am not the type of person that does that but I do know people that do.

 

Take my Father for example. He is the type of person that represses everything. Well one day that demon got to him and he had a heart-attack. Just thought I'd add that.

[Ash]

I find it very difficult to tell myself not to think about things. Human nature is such that in attempting to ignore a thought often has the opposite effect.

 

I thought I'd shelved my feelings for somebody years ago. I hadn't at all. It all came bursting to the surface one day, beyond my ability to control. Gilgamesh hit that one smack on.

 

ALso, as he says, life is about contrasts. To feel good, we have to know what it feels like to feel badly. To truly understand love, it almost seems we have to have lost it. We can feel love without that happening, just not comprehend why and how it really works.

 

If we bury something inside, we don't learn the lessons we should from it. Ignoring our own problems doesn't make them go away.

[sisterlynch]

The guy thinks that he can repress his feelings, but they are always there, although he isn't thinking about them actively they can cause him to slow down and not enjoy life so much. That is why I always say to be honest with how you are feeling, you don't necessarily have to act upon those feelings, but you should be aware of your motives for everything that you think and do. This is how you will be authentic. If something doesn't feel right, don't let others talk you into something just to look good to that small group of people, because in the long run you are not only hurting others by making it seem like you feel the same way as they do, but you are hurting yourself by not acting upon your own intuition!!

 

MB -- my dad died suddenly like that too!! It has caused me to totally reevaluate how I think and feel about everything. At first I tried to move forward and forget all about him, but that really didn't work at all. I had to look at his life as a lesson to me about what caused him happiness and what didn't. He drank too much, ate too much and stood up for himself improperly. He didn't live an authentic life. We need to learn to stand up for ourselves and question everything.

[lunatic]

I think repressing emotions is a bad thing because it will surface again. You will never feel right about yourself because there are issues to deal with that you are ignoring. I tried to repress my emotions from the girl I amost married. After that fell apart I jumped into another relationship within a few weeks.

Let me tell you that after my four year relationship ended (my last gf). I have been dealing with an extrodinary amount of emotions that it is overwhelming. I knew for months my last gf and I were coming to an end but, I am in so much pain. I think that I am now starting to deal with my past issues and emotions. I can also tell you that I have not felt like myself for a long time and felt there was something missing inside me emotionally.

I would like to tell you in the long way about it. Never repress you emotions because someday you will have to deal with it.

 

I can tell you I am in hell right now and I would not wish this on anyone ever.

 

Deal with it now and not in the future because I have wasted four long years of my life.

 

Don't do it.

 

Hubman

[real amour]

Hello Mb guy. Gilamesh is the king of comprehension here with his comments: 'Now if you let this creature loose now, and deal with it, he will eventually tire and go away for good. never to surprise you later in life.'

 

Something may trigger the return to a memory or an experience you had forgotten. It can creep up on you unexpectedly then you are caught with it forever since you did not face it in the first place. I did this and yup, they came back roaring.

 

People with their great minds may lie, but emotions with their roaring hearts never do. Repression will make you a liar to yourself and to others.

 

'The problem with repressed emotions is, that you need all of them to be complete, when you lock away one or two feelings, you cannot love someone again completely because to be balanced and whole you need all your emotions intact. even the "negative" emotions are necessary.'

 

This is so right and so beautifully said. You need someone to bring out both your vice and your virtue, not 100% of either to make up for the other half. We are made of both though we do not want to admit it. I read that God loves those who have gone and come back from Him than those who never have left. Good luck.