Why am I feeling like this?

[Ixi]

I don't know if it's jealousy or some other emotion or what's going on. But I recently went out with this guy, kinda of like a blind date, he isn't really someone I would ever consider dating just cause I'm not physically attracted to him. But I loved the attention from him.

 

I mean, he would call randomly to say hi, and talk to me online as soon as I logged on. But while I loved the attention I was getting from him, I couldn't make myself like him as anything more than a friend.

 

But I guess he kinda got the message that I didn't like him like that cause all of a sudden he stopped calling and stopped messaging and I really miss it. I guess it's true, you never know what you have until you lose it.

 

I'm still pretty sure I don't like him as a bf but I so miss talking to him!!!!!

 

But i don't want to "force" him to talk to me if he doesn't want to. I know if i were to call him or IM him, he'll respond but I don't want him to unless he wants to.

 

I'm just so confused why i'm so upset. I mean, it's normal that he's moving on.

[Entropy Smith]

Move on. No matter how you slice it, he wants more than a friendship. Continuing communication would just give him hope and then dissappointment. You don't want to rob his bank.

 

Its normal to feel upset after a relationship ends even if its just a friendship. We are wired to be social. Cut off someone its alittle like having someone die. Don't call him though unless you are interested beyond friends.

[ghost69]

that's your answer. this is all you got out of it. spare him the heartache of pursuing you and stop giving him signals that you are into him. do it for the both of you. break it off.

[rs.dallaire]

Don't call him though unless you are interested beyond friends.

 

I think the above line says it perfectly... If you think beyond the phone conversations, this is the only solution as you know how he feels about you.