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Is this a break up or a BREAK DOWN?!

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My boyfriend broke up with me this Saturday and ever since I've just felt like I can't handle anything! I constantly think about him, about how much I love him and I can't seem to get it in my head that he dumped me! Having a talk with my sister made me understand that it wasn't the fact that he had changed but the fact that he acted differently towards me during those months that we started to go out. You know, as I write this I feel like I understand this and I get it but to be honest, this little light at the end of the tunnel flickers quite a lot.


I can't do NC because I have all the same classes with my ex. He tries to be cordial but for me, it's either spew all my feelings for him or just ignore him and make him think I hate him. I've walked out of two classes this past week and I just feel like I am slowly slipping away from sanity here. I know what you guys are going to say but although I can rationally agree with you all, my emotions are just overflowing out of me. I feel like he has destroyed my life beyond repair. What is worse is that I obsess over everything he does without him knowing. From noticing that he has wore the sweater I gave him twice this week to the fact that he might like somebody else ( I keep looking for potential people he might like).


How many times have I catch myself looking his way I cannot tell you, the number is too large. I feel my heart explode in happiness and then shrivel up in sadness every time I see him. I'm afraid that I will never get over this. I want to. I wish I could ball up all these feelings and throw them away as easily as he threw me out the door. Whats worse is that he's happy. He's content with the choice he made and I"m here like a pathetic loser, feeling all the pain and disillusionment from a stupid relationship. There are so many reasons why I shouldn't even bother to be with him. I just can't make y emotions understand that he is a sucky person. I don't know how to get my life back together. I can't believe I am still like this when he has already so easily moved on.

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First off,


I just want to say that I am sorry that you guys broke up. I was in a similar situation awhile ago. Except my ex is in high school and this is my first year in college. I know what it feels like to be in class and lose control of your emotions. Everything you feel is totally normal. But here was my mistake, I sat in my room and just looked at her online profiles, away message, etc. If I were you, I would go out and meet some new people. Guys or girls. Having some new friends can take your mind off of your ex. By meeting new guys, not only may you find someone better, it will make your ex jealous. I know that I did get jealous with my ex when she started seeing new guys. Please, DO NOT SIT IN YOUR DORM ROOM! Get out. Join some clubs. Go to the gym. Go to a party with friends. Keep your mind occupied. College is supposed to be the best time of our lives...I'm starting to believe that!

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Im sorry to hear of your situation and I can say I know exactly how you feel. I've been there; done that.


How long were you two together?


First off hunnie, CRY. Cry if you want to, it's OKAY to cry. Crying is to help cleanse you of your pain. It does not make you a pathetic loser.


Break ups are never easy and in your case harder because have to see him on a daily basis. It's always easier to heal and move on when you can do NC.


STOP thinking about him 'liking someone else.' Your only going to torment yourself imagining him with someone else. That won't help you heal it will only hurt you worse and I cannot stress that enough. I know, because I did that. I pictured him with her over and over and all it did was cause me more pain. You have to block all those thoughts.


Focus on you and your life. It's all about you now. You are what's important. Where he is. . . who is he with . . . or what he is doing is not important.


Not only will this break-up not kill you, but it may be the best thing that ever happened to you. Your boyfriend wasn't who made you. You can be just as happy as you were with him; without him. And when you are ready a new, better love will be right around the corner.

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