Stupid brain

[Somerandomguy82]

What the hell is it going to take for me to get this girl out my my head? Therapy, hypnosis, religion?

 

Do you normally miss a person who thrives on making you miserable? I'm getting to the point where I'm more pissed at myself for still thinking about her than I am with her for manipulating and lying to me for a year.

[lady00]

Do you normally miss a person who thrives on making you miserable?

Don't beat yourself up about this. Was she abusive? I'm just asking because I have heard of a lot of people who are abused later missing their significant other. There is nothing wrong with you that you feel this way. All those things you suggested might help. Time might help too...but that is not a cure-all either. I don't know what works...it just...happens...at some point that you don't miss them and you feel better.

[LMKunkel]

there was a guy i was dating who i was ready to breakup with. but he got to it first... and broke up with me in the worst way possible (cheating many many times).

 

It took months for me to get him out of my head. I completely forgot all the things he did to make me miserable and could only think of the good times we had together. i hated myself for thinking about him non-stop. but i couldn't help myself.

 

time is the only thing that will heal hurt like this. it sucks- but it will happen. you just need to wait it out. i wish there was an easier fix... but there really isn't. stay strong!

[Somerandomguy82]

Yes, she was pretty abusive, jealous, controlling... all the things you look for in the person you think you're in love with. She put so much effort into making me miserable. She must be thrilled that she drove me to the point that I couldn't take it anymore and broke up with her. But here I am... still thinking about her.

[Poe]

Sounds like she's pretty insecure, I bet it drives her nuts that she doesn't have you around to punt around. I bet that's making her think. Assuming 82 is your birth year, I'm 25 also... she really is too old to be acting like that. It's her loss.

[Somerandomguy82]

Yea, we're both 25. It's really frustrating. I have this ridiculous urge to try to make her understand that she was all I wanted. It is as I said, ridiculous because I spent our entire relationship unable to get that point accross and I know it's utterly impossible to ever get through to her.

 

I'm sure she's doing just fine. It apparently doesn't take her long to move on and find someone else. It's one of those things where if I were to give advice to myself I would tell myself to stop f*****g thinking about her and get on with my life. One of those many easier said than done things.

[AnxiousGirl]

It's the emotional attachment you have to her no matter how abusive she might have been towards you, IMO.

 

Emotions are strong, very strong! Everyone heals at their own pace. Some take longer than others. It's been 6 months since my break up and I'm not fully healed either. Give it time and get busy to take your mind off her. Sitting around won't help you.

 

You won't feel this way forever even though it sometimes feels that way. I would recommend therapy. It might greatly benefit you right now.

[Poe]

I had a similar experience myself, with some recent posts myself... I think what makes it so tough is not having any control over the situation. As guys we're predispositioned to work on and fix things. To not be able to do that is I think especially frustrating, to have to walk away from something that in our eyes could have potentially been good.

[need2bme]

What the hell is it going to take for me to get this girl out my my head? Therapy, hypnosis, religion?

 

The answer is..."time" and when you are ready..."someone else".