need advice for getting with this girl

[troy3335]

This is my first time ever asking for advice like this on a forums.

 

Ok every tuesday night me and 4 other guys have something called Man Night where we get drunk and have fun with just the guys, last tuesday we invited our nieghbor who happened to be an attractive girl, throughout the night she was flirting with everyone (however 2/5 have girlfriends so they wernt acting on the flirts). I ended up putting my arm around her and held her for most of the night, at one point we were all in our underwear/boxers going through a fountian which I carried her through, everything was going well until we got back to the apartment when me and her were snuggling together on the couch, she ended up getting up and went down the hall where my buddy john was for a few minutes, when she came back she sat in my buddy jakes lap instead of mine. Jake is single and is basically a ladies man...so at that point I figured it was over for me. She ended up leaving about 5-10 minutes later and John told me to walk her to her room...I didnt want to because I was upset about her being with Jake but John insisted I did. I walked her over and went to give her a hug, then she went in to kiss me and we made out for about 1 minute...I told her she was beutifull and then asked if I could come inside and she said no.

 

When I got back John said that when she went back to his room she got on his counter and told him to come and get her (he did not because he has a gf).

 

I think this girl is the most beutifull girl ive ever met and when I looked her eye to eye during the kiss I felt one with her, my question to you all is what should I expect out of this girl? Was the kiss just because she was drunk, was she willing to hook up with any1 that night.

 

Background on me: I am 19 and was puberty came late for me and ive always been skinny (6'0 & 145lbs), I still cant grow much facial hair...but for the first time in my life I think I am somewhat attractive because I am beginning to look older (still look around 16 or 17) and I have been working out for the past 2 months and I am starting to look good. Fact is I have never been confident enough to go after girls until now and she was the first girl I ever kissed (that meant anything), I am also a virgin and she knows I am a virgin because we played a drinking game where the question came up and I am an honest person...she asked me later at night when we were alone why I was a virgin and I responded (I am waiting for love)...thats not really true...real reason is the right moment just hasnt come yet, I also think the answer I gave her is going to hurt my chances.

 

Anyways the next day I went over to her place to talk to her and get her #, turns out she went out of town and is still out of town until tomorow...I contacted her on facebook and basically just said hows it goin...she responded and said the night was one of the most fun shes ever had...I then responded to her asking her if she would like to watch lost with me on thursday nights (Lost listed as one of her favoirte shows). I have not received a responce yet.

 

Anyways I dont think this girl is relationship material, although I would love to go out with her...but as of now I think I just want to get my first one under my belt, does her knowing im a virgin hurt my chances...and any other advice would be great.

 

Also I cant stop thinking about this girl the past week and its driving me crazy...any advice on how to get her off my mind! lol

 

Sory for the long ass post, if any1 actually reads this advice is greatly appreciated.

[Stinkweed]

Anyways I dont think this girl is relationship material, although I would love to go out with her...but as of now I think I just want to get my first one under my belt, does her knowing im a virgin hurt my chances...and any other advice would be great.

 

It's this way of thinking that's making you feel like crap right now. You gotta be clear on what you want. Do you just want to lose your virginity with anyone. Is that, like, your main goal right now or something? I hope not.

 

To me, it looks like she played all of you like fools. She might be a sl*t but that doesn't necessarily mean she'll just have sex with anyone she barely knows. Forget about her, and go ask a normal/nice girl out. She shouldn't have control over you like this.

 

Your background about the way you look, etc, doesn't matter as much as you think. What matters is where you're at right now. You can't change your background, but you could always adopt a new attitude right now and change things now.

[Dako]

Sounds like you and she deserve each other.

Both have similar interests, values and plans.

[boo121]

I told her she was beutifull and then asked if I could come inside and she said no.

 

lol. She seems like some1 who is having a bit of fun with everybody, no feelings attached. you and here werent dating at the party, so dont let it get to you if she goes off with other guys.

[AngelEyez]

She's a slew. If you do go out with her, you'll get your feelings hurt.

[rs.dallaire]

I don't think the two of you are looking for the same thing.

 

You should have zero expectations and stop trying to make plans with her. She's a wild cat. She's fun but you won't be able to trap her.

 

She's a good fit with players who won't cling at her after they've had a bit of fun.

 

You're already viewing her as more important than she wants to be.

 

Let it go.

[ghost69]

she sounds like a tease to me. i agree to find a better girl to date. if you want to lose your virginity, i bet you have a great chance with this girl.