meagzt Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 Ok, I had posted about my problems with my bf, and I took that advice that I had been given and tried to talk to him this morning. He completely acted like I very anwas such an inconvenience and hung up on me.... That's one thing that will make me very angry... So I called him back and he didn't answer, I texted him a few times and never got a reply... so I just called his phone again and broke up with him through a voicemail... If he won't talk to me, then I have no other alternative... So, my morning starts off with somethin I don't want to do, but I know is what I need. Then I go to work and one of the guys that works there always hits on me... But today he took it way too far, trying to feel me up and telling me to stay and help him close so we could go to the back to do something... I told him to leave me alone and if he didn't stop I would grab, twist and pull... he didnt believe me sooo.... yea. But I know telling a manager about it won't do any good because he has had complaints like this before and he got a slap on the hand... So yea... today has been by far the worst day of my life... But when it comes to the break up I don't even feel that upset. I feel bad because of the way I ended it, but more so, I feel relieved.... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 I've read some of your past threads and all I have to say is good for you. This guy caused you so much angst and stress. You deserve someone so much better! I wish you the best and hope that everything becomes better again for you. As for this creep at work, I'd keep complaining and if doesn't change, I'd look into a sexual harassment charge. Tell him that you are thinking about it. If he doesn't straighten up, tell your supervisor that you are going to take this perv's behind to court if nothing is done. They won't want that. Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 If talking to a manager won't do any good, is there someone higher up in the company that you can go to? Sexual harassment isn't ok. Some places will give a warning or "slap in the hand" at the first complaint and then take it more seriously when it becomes a reoccurring thing. Can you talk to HR at where you work? Good for you on ending things with this guy. The feeling of relief is a good sign, you know that you did the right thing. It's going to be hard to get through this, but for now, celebrate - you're no longer in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about you! This is a really great opportunity for you. Link to comment
meagzt Posted February 3, 2008 Author Share Posted February 3, 2008 The Home Office Manager said he was tired of hearing it... and his family is the police in this town... it's small. So saying something doesn't do any good... and he's an assistant manager, so if i do say something, it's just going to make things harder on me Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 i know it may not seem like it now - but i think this is the best day of your life. you stood up for yourself, insisted that you won't let people treat you like crap, you took charge, and for that i am very very very proud of you. you did really well today, you deserve a huge pat on the back. i hope you find a better job, and a better boyfriend, you certainly deserve it. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 i know it may not seem like it now - but i think this is the best day of your life. you stood up for yourself, insisted that you won't let people treat you like crap, you took charge, and for that i am very very very proud of you. you did really well today, you deserve a huge pat on the back. i hope you find a better job, and a better boyfriend, you certainly deserve it. I absolutely agree with this. The actions of these people were unpleasant and that will certainly make for feeling badly...BUT, you handled it well, you stood up for yourself, you didn't let the bullies beat you into submission. Good for you! Link to comment
meagzt Posted February 3, 2008 Author Share Posted February 3, 2008 Thanks guys. I'm still thinking about him, but most of it is what was WRONG with the relationship... b/c there weren't many things that were good. But at this point NC is what I've chosen to do... I've set my phone up so that if your number isn't in my phone book, you can't call me and I took his number out of my phone. He can text, but that's easy for me to ignore... I do all the time. I just don't know if I have the will power to hit the STFU button (Shut the **** up) if he were to call. His truck has a very distinct sound, so I know when he drives by, but I just pretend like I don't hear it... Maybe if I don't acknowledge his presense he will leave me alone... is this the right attitude to have? I've never broken up with a guy that was persistent about calling and textin to make me feel sorry for him or driving by my house to see every move I make.... He's wondering if I have one of my guy friends over that he hates, I know what it is. And now that I think about it, could he have fought to get me back out of jealousy? He can't stand the thought of me being around another guy, so he tries to win me back... which he is a VERY jealous person and really doesn't like it if I stop to talk to another guy, even if they are just friends. Link to comment
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