alwyzdreamin2004 Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 I'm not over my ex. I mean, I'm ok with everything that happened, but I'm not over him. I was talking to my friend tonight. And I realized something. That new guy who is absolutely perfect for me, he has one thing missing about him. HE'S NOT ****(MY EX'S NAME). He's not him. That's whats missing. The guy is perfect for me, he treated me better than my ex ever did(my ex didnt treat me bad, he just didnt go all out with everything.). That's why something has always felt off with the new guy. I don't know. I thought my feelings for him were gone but I guess they aren't. I still have this small hope. I started to realize this when I was watching a movie and I was picturing married with kids with the ex and not the new guy...when I had been picturing everything with the new guy. I don't know. I wish I could see into the future...to see what was going to happen. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 how long did you and your ex date? how long since you've broken up? how long have you and the new guy been going out? Link to comment
AnxiousGirl Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 Maybe you really aren't ready to date? I think it's natural to compare your ex to the new guy but, at least, give the new guy a chance. Link to comment
Entomon Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 Because you've built a comfort zone and connected with him in a deep personal level, it's natural to still pine for the ex even when he is long gone. But at some point, you have to realize that you must move on with your life because he is never ever coming back. And if he does, it won't be anytime soon. Maybe the new guy is just that, perfect. He doesn't have any flaws in him and by that you may find him not to be too exciting. I think I can say and speak for most women that we all like a nice guy with an edge. Perhaps, give this new guy a chance for you to connect with him. He could turn out to be the love of your life. Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 You're right - the new guy isn't your ex. But he is himself, and he's a good person who you're interested in and attracted to. It takes time to really build a relationship and to have it at the same level that your old one was. If you're early in and you can't picture being married and having kids with this guy, you're normal. With that said, if you really feel like you aren't over your ex, dump the new guy so that he can find someone interested in him. Link to comment
BrokenTinMan Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 Ah I can relate to this... You may have to re-asses your feelings for the new guy. It may just be remnants of the ex's memory, especially if you've been together a long time. I had to make this decision not too long ago. I was seeing someone for over a month, but broke it off, because I realized I wasn't over my ex AT ALL. Be prepared to grieve over two guys when you do decide to cut ties with the new guy though Think long and hard! I wish you well. Link to comment
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