She is Interested in me?

[henryfirst]

I'm 29 married and have 2 small babies. My wife is irreplaceble and I love her very much. Everything is very good but I'm not fullfilled on the sexual level. Not my wife's fault that I have more sexual needs to satisfy in order to be happy. I would be fine if I met an escort once a month but its illegal and unavailable.

 

I got very sexually attracted to a girl at work, so I smiled at her whenever I saw her, she smiled back.

 

She found my phone number and called me, she told me that she would like to chat with me on the internet and that she will not call me again on my phone since she knew I was married.

 

The horny person I am, I have been chatting with her on the internet for 2 weeks now and I'm already starting to feel guilty. Had it been pure sex I wouldn't have even felt any guilt.

 

It seems that she is very attracted to me, or maybe she wants me to feel this way because she has some hidden agenda.

 

I told her that I couldn't take her out on a date since I'm married and we can only chat as friends, she replied yes, but gradually increased her frequency and depth of contact. Now she's using words like I'm missing you.

 

Now here's what I want to know first:

 

- Is she a professional home wrecker? She leads men on until they trip at a certain point and then she tells the wife.

 

- Is she a gold digger? She's in need of money one can tell (she makes it very clear) and I'm a guy who just may have an extra buck.

 

- Is she also sexually interested? This would be a nice case scenario, get it on, get if off, go home, sleep long and strong. But she avoids sexual topics and changes the subject whenever she feels that oh here's a joke with a sexual twist.

 

- Is she really attracted to me? Ok, she is 5 years older than me, but why stick with a regular joe who's married and works 2 jobs, when you can literarily get hundreds of interested hunks on dating websites? She said that she respects me a lot and that she will always be available when I want to chat or call.

 

- She just wants to be friends? It can't be. I have female friends, they insist on meeting my wife, they call openly and literarily treat me as if I simply were their biological brother.

 

Can someone guess what this woman wants?

 

And do you think I'm cheating by chatting?

[kevinm]

She wants to cheat with you. And yes, there are indeed women who love the fact that a man will give them attention when that man is married. The whole "he likes me better than his wife" thing. You better stop now and tone things down a bit before you do something you regret.

 

-Kevin

[Aschleigh]

First things first. Have you addressed your sexual frustration within your marriage Have you said flat out to your wife, I need more sex in my life, I am tempted to go elsewhere, I need us to work on this together"

Until you have explored all options in your marriage, do nothing outside of it.

Get into counseling with your wife as soon as possible. Those babies need you.

[scotty77]

How did she obtain your phone number?Perhaps she will have sex with you for awhile and then threaten to tell your wife if you don't give her money.It's weird that she would avoid sexual topics since she was the one who pursued you.I would advise you to stay away but you likely aren't going to listen to me are you?

[knightNshiningarmor]

OMG DUDE RUN...trust me this is only going to you up soooooo bad..most women cant see sex the way you do and most will come attached which it seems she already is...so already this is a bad bad situation..to top it off she works with you...if you advance your relationship she will have your balls in a vice. trust me man for the love of god gradually slow it down..be distant until she gets the drift...first and formost id talk to your wife about you not sexually satisfied with the relationship and then if you have too go find a chick on craigslist or something thats there for NSA sex.

[Aleadragonhawk]

Instead of focusing on getting in this woman's pants, focus on your "irreplaceable" wife - because trust me, if you sleep with this woman and your wife has any self respect whatsoever, you will be out of the house with divorce papers paying half of your paycheck for spousal support.

[smickey]

- Is she also sexually interested? This would be a nice case scenario, get it on, get if off, go home, sleep long and strong. But she avoids sexual topics and changes the subject whenever she feels that oh here's a joke with a sexual twist.

You talk about cheating on your wife as if it is a casual thing - a 'nice case scenario?'. How is cheating on your wife and kids a good scenario?

 

Does your wife think it would be fine for you to meet an escort once a month? I doubt it somehow.

 

I think you are asking the wrong questions - you should be addressing your own actions and looking at your own marriage rather than trying to work out if the person you are contemplating having an affair with might have her own agenda.

 

Maybe she is chasing you, but then she isn't the one with a family. It is up to you to set the boundaries with this woman. You say your wife is irreplacable and you love her very much - if this is true then make sure you don't cross the line with this other woman.

[henryfirst]

If it makes her happy, I'm ok if my wife meets a male escort once a month for some safe sex. It might even spice her up in bed.

 

However, I would be devastated if she would have private chats online with some man from her work.

[Censored]

You are talking and feeling guilty about having an intimate and emotional affair with another person.

 

You should feel guilty and bad about this.

 

I am not advocating cheating, or promiscuity, but for me, an emotional affair over time would be far worse than a one night fling for sex.

 

Although, either would be deal breakers for me.

 

You are excited by this person because it is so desirable to be dsiered by someone else.

Such a wonderful thing, and exciting to know that we are desirable to another.

 

Do NOT sleep with her. Think clearly on this. Cut the contact with her. Stop stroking your ego and hoping she'll stroke your "edit".

 

Here are your answers. There is no question here.

 

Would she blow you, * * * * you and do all sorts of other sexual tricks with you? Yes, she would.

So accept that you could if you wanted, but be the stronger person and say no.

 

Stay clear of her, it is for your own good.

[henryfirst]

You are talking and feeling guilty about having an intimate and emotional affair with another person. .

 

I wouldn't feel guilty if it turns pure sexual.

 

 

Would she blow you, * * * * you and do all sorts of other sexual tricks with you? Yes, she would.

So accept that you could if you wanted, but be the stronger person and say no. .

 

If I go for sex I gain pleasure. If I don't, I'll lose the pleasure and gain nothing. How would that make me stronger?

 

 

Stay clear of her, it is for your own good.

 

In which way?

[henryfirst]

Yeah, here's what happened:

I said we gotta slow down the chatting cause I ain't got time.

She said she got feelings for me.

I said ''feelings and Im married'' is not a good thing so we might as well block each other out.

I asked her to block me and I blocked her.

She would want revenge or something, but what for? all we did was chat online for 2 weeks. No biggie. Unless she's a real psycho I think I'm safe.

She called twice I explained to her that I respect her but I got take care of my family and that she's got to respect my request. I tried to remind her that all we did was online chat, and if this filled her up with feelings for me then she'll forget me totally in 2 weeks as well.